Seating of the parents

ecarpenter01

So my parent have been divorced for almost 25 years and my dad has been remarried for 22 of those years. My mom said that it is tradition for her to be just seated and not be walked in with the rest of the parents. I see it as a jealousy thing with my mom. My step mom is important to me and has been apart of my life since I was like 6. I say buck 'tradition' and have her be walked in like the other parents. But my mom will be mad if I choose this was. I see it as disrespect though of my step mom. Help please.

Simply Fated

I have never even heard of that tradition.

aurianna

I don't know if it was "traditional" or not, but I gave my step mom a corsage like the other mothers. She was escorted by an usher after the grandparents, but before my MiL and was listed in the program.

I don't think it's worth hurting your step-mother's feelings (or downright insulting her) just to hold to "tradition.: (And I'm not even sure it's against tradition to also honor your father's wife / a woman who helped raise you).

Before it becomes a thing, maybe find out if your step-mother would even like to be part of the processional. if she wants to and if you want her to, there's really no reason not to... unless your mother is paying and is dead set against it... but if that's the case, she's being unreasonable.

LuckyGirl1713

Your mother is making up her own rules and traditions to fit her own needs.  You need to do what is best for you and your fiance.

Jen4948

I've never heard of any such "tradition" that stepmothers who are close to their stepchildren don't get to be treated as "mothers" on their stepchildren's wedding day.

In any case, I'd go ahead and honor your stepmother as you see fit (as long as your mother is not holding any financial strings-if she is, you need to deal with that).

Calypso1977

the only tradition im aware of is that the MOB is always seated last.  always.

your stepmother should also be formally seated, IMO, but before your mother.