Advice - Colleague's Wedding

mlperkins12

I have two co-workers getting married before my wedding in October.  One is having a small DW wedding and the other is a newer co-worker.  I was not invited to either wedding. I was invited to the newer colleague's shower, but did not attend because I felt uncomfortable since I wasn't invited to the wedding.  Both have been invited to my wedding.  The girl who is having the DW wedding has already accepted the invitation and bought/sent a wedding gift to us.  I'm not sure if the second is attending.  My question is, should I buy both of these ladies a wedding gift?  The newer colleague is registered and was married yesterday.  The other, DW wedding, is getting married a month before me in Georgia.  I'd love your thoughts on what the right thing to do is in both of these cases.

MyUserName1

I would, just for the sake of good work relations.  It doesn't have to be huge or expensive.

lyndausvi

It's up to you. 

 I have bought gifts for couples even though I was not invited to the weddings before.  I bought them a gift because I like to give gifts.   

Loopyseven

I would probably get them something small'ish off their registries, at least the one that is attending your wedding and has sent a gift.  No need to get too extravagant, or try to match the amount they spent on your gift or anything, just a nice token to maintain good working relations.

afeliz79

I would buy them both something.

MrsGandthebeag

If I wasn't invited I don't think I'd give a gift.  It depends on how good of a friend the person is.  

specialk84

Ditto Stage. 

Also, you know the W in DW stands for wedding, right? Your coworker had a destination wedding wedding?

mizutamababy

We had people not invited give us gifts.  They were small and we sent thank yous.

I would at least buy a gift for the girl who accepted your invitation already.  I would personally wait until the other girl RSVPs yes or no before getting her a gift.  It won't look suspicious since her wedding is close to yours either way.  If she RSVPs no I would probably at least give a congratulations card.

I'm not much for giving gifts to people who didn't care to invite me to their wedding.