Sooo, I am totally aware of all of the etiquette and not expecting a gift/card from every guest invited to wedding, but I have a situation I need help in handling...or letting go. We got marreid 2 weeks ago and upon return the next day did have a gift waiting for us at the house so we do understand that some come later. We have a few guests we did not receive a card or gift from which we expected, but what was shocking was I invited my entire team that works for me to the wedding. They came together as "singles" and totalled 12 ppl at their table. When we opened up the cards, there was not one card from any one of them in our card box. Now they did have a small shower for me that they pitched in on a gift for us, so we just were concerened that maybe they had one card for all and it didn't make it/misplaced from the box. Many people give cash at weddings so we were concerned if that were the case here and it was gone. I know etiquette doesn't allow you to ask if they gave a card, but it just seems very, very odd that there was not one from any of them....except a team member who no longer is with the team.
Help, I don't want to be the one who breaks etiquette, but something just doesn't seem right. Also, we are not registered anywhere or have a registry online or sent in invites, so we don't think a gift is in the future to arrive.
Also, do you send a thank you card to those who did not give gifts/cards to you? If so, what do you say on them?
Thank you for any direction you can lead me in on this.