help with wording

pooh8402

I suck at this.

Okay, so my cousin and his wife are getting an invite. I was last able to talk to cousin in December, right before he was deployed to Afghanistan until June. I told him that I would be sending him and his wife an invitation, even though I know they can't make it, he said bring it on. I know that in the case of people who are getting invites even when you already KNOW they can't make it, you're supposed to send a note with the invite to the tune of, "I know you can't make it, but I still want you there, here's an invite, yada yada yada." How would  yall word that?

scoetto

X mentioned that you wouldn't be able to make it, but we wanted to send an invitation anyway to let you know you are still invited in case you are able to make it after all.

ohwhynot

Dear Cousin & Wife:  We'll be thinking of you that day and wishing you could be here.  We are sending all our best wishes to you both and praying for (or waiting for or hoping for, if you don't pray) [cousin's] safe and quick return home, Pooh & MrPooh. 

Would that work? 

felicity and reverie

Since he already knows that they will be getting an invitation, I would probably keep it simple and say something like, "We will miss you at the wedding! If your plans change, we would love to have you there!"

pooh8402

thanks so much! I'll probably do a combo of ohwhynot and felicity! thanks!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Is it possible your cousin's wife will make it herself?