I don't want to register but... ( rant)

kbmeow

I apoligize in advance I have had a bad day...

We do not want to register but I am going to.
We have lived together for 4 years
I am 36 and he is 35
We do not need much of anything
We do need a bigger place
My fi is having job issues and could loose his job before the wedding but he is looking for another job now.
We are paying for our own wedding.
We are not taking a honeymoon
We are saving for a bigger home

Truthfully, I am registering for things I kinda want and won't buy ( a waffle maker).  Nice sheets because you can never have enough.  A few pots and pans, the ones I do not have in my set.  A few other things I would like and won't buy myself.  I do not need anything .  I would love to get money.  I think every bride would love to get just money but....  You can NOT ask for it.  You register for gifts , not a honeymoon, not to pay a vendor.  If you do not ask for anything besides money you will get stuff you have no use for and no clue how to return.  So suck it up and register or risk getting belenders and irons.  EVERYONE wants money.  You let the key people know that if someone asks you would apreciate cash for xyz. But be grateful anybody wants to buy you anything.  It is not expected that people give you anything it is a nice gester that is not required.
 
Please no more excues just suck it up and register because you know that is the right thing to do
and NO ONE will validate you with any other sugestion.

JessAndTrav

Tenofcups, I think that you forgot to read that in my sarcasm font.

tenofcups4me

You're right. I missed the invisible sarcasm font, though I did think it was a really weird thing to say.

JessAndTrav

No worries.

kellyjellybelly

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-want-register-but-rant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:92924880-4308-4ad1-a0ee-3373fa32b404Post:c28b1e3d-32f6-4a2b-b5ea-3a640adad7b2">Re: I don't want to register but... ( rant)</a>:
[QUOTE]I had no idea that my post would cause such an explosion. I didn't know that people would freak out in such a way. Now time for my rant.. Gift registries were invented by retail stores. They are just another way to force people to shop at Big Box stores. Back in the days of our parents and grandparents (etc) it was CUSTOMARY to give Money! $$$$$  You did not give gifts for the home or whatever. This was called a BOOST... for the newlywed couple to use as they wanted. Where do we get off telling people where to shop and what to buy? Bring back the traditions of our elder generations and stop doing what the TV tells us to do!
Posted by next2perfection[/QUOTE]
I don't think anyone freaked out, just gave you honest opinions in a response to a question you asked.  You asked if it was insulting or if there was a better idea.  You received a lot of advice about 'better ideas.'<div>You can go right ahead and set up your photography thing, but just be prepared for people to not want to contribute to that and give you things that they think you will like.  I also think that if there are local stores that you love, they would probably try to work with you with making a registry of sorts.  It ultimately would probably mean more sales for them.    </div><div>Also, FWIW I think registrys were created by Santa.  I made a list and sent it to him every year as a child with things I wanted him to bring me.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />  </div>

kbmeow

My post was not about 1 person specifically.  It was a rant about all of the people who say that and all who have evry excuse why not!

skippylouwho

I have several of the things my grandparents and GREAT grandparents received as wedding gifts. They were certainly not cash. They are pieces of crystal and china. 

If my grandmother were alive she would be 94, she was married at 18 (yes, she had graduated from high school) so those items are 76 years old.

If my great grandma were alive she would be 115 and her wedding gifts that I have are 98 years old.

I also have items both my grandparents and great grandparents received as gifts at their respective 50th wedding anniversaries.

alecat9

"In 1924, I find it pretty safe to assume that your grandmother was probably not at a marrying age, (unless you're much older than I am)"-JessAndTrav

Sorry, but I find this untrue. I'm only 22 but my grandmother was born in1910, so while, yes, she would not have been of marrying age, she was too far short of it. Factor my age in to the equation, and the answer is "no, next2perfection would not have to be much older than you". Sorry, I'm being picky (and missing my grandmother).