On Line Save the Date & Wedding Invitation QUESTION!

ckeim13

Hello Wedding World,

I am planning my wedding in nine weeks--and sending out my paper (snail mail) invitations next week (I know, I'm already not by the books on that one!) I sent out on-line save the dates and two people : the mom of a good freind of a girl I grew up with ( the friend can attend and whom I am very close with today) and one of my dearest friends in the world (if I had bridemaids she would be one!) are not able to attend. The mom of my friend wrote me a sweet message on the save the date website about how sorry she was to miss it.  They both will attend my wedding shower, do I send them an invitation anyway?? I don't want them to think it's a gift thing, it NOT at all...but I want them to know how much they mean to me and want to do the right thing.   Any feedback here would be amazing!

Thanks,

LMWG (Last Minute Wedding Gal)

MrsGandthebeag

Yes, send them invites anyway.  Plans can change.

gailpete

Yes you should send them an invitiation.  As PP said, plans change.

Also, if you are sending out your invitations at the 8 week mark, you are right on schedule.  Invites should go out 6-8 weeks before the wedding (despite what you may read on TK and other sites).

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Send them anyway. Maybe you can include a note saying, "I know you said you couldn't attend, but let us know if plans change." Or let them know you wanted them to have the invitation as a keepsake.

ftrmrsweatherdon

I agree, I would send an invite anyway, it shows you're still thinking of them and would love them to come if plans change.

I would also include a note.

cevans11

I had several folks respond to my STDs that they couldn't make it (mostly older relatives who can't travel). Since it's just a few people, I'm just including a short little handwritten note, saying "We are sorry you won't be with us, but thought you'd like an invitation as a keepsake, and of course if your plans change, we'll be so happy to have you with us!"