NWR Would you pitch in?

Winnertag1

This might end up being a double post because I posted it before & it didnt show up.

FI and I decided we wanted to go camping for our birthdays and we invited another couple who we are friends with. I asked FI & his friend to decide which campsite they wanted to go to and FI's friend decided he would book it. After our friends booked and paid for the site they told us it was going to be $20 a person & and they had invited 7 other people as well, which they never told us about till after they booked. We were both pissed since we were going for our birthdays and out of the 7 people they invited we only knew 2 of them. They also booked an electrical site which makes it more expensive and neither FI nor I wanted it.

We are going camping this weekend & out of the 7 extra people they invited 5 have cancelled so now they are stuck paying for the people that bailed since the sites have been booked and paid for & they told us a set price and cant change it on those who are coming. I kind of feel bad since they are on a tight budget (but so are we) and now they have to spend an extra $100 or so that they didnt plan for, for our birthday. FI says I shouldnt feel bad.

Would you guys offer to pitch in extra? How much?

CN: Going camping for FI and my birthday, invited another couple. Couple booked the site & invited an extra 7 people. Now 5 of the 7 have bailed & they are stuck paying for them, an extra $100 plus permits. Would you offer to pitch in more or leave it? It's $20 a person which is already more expensive than we expected since they booked an electrical site, when we said our preference was a regular site.

brilibby4

I would only pay the original amount that you agreed to pay in the beginning.  You shouldn't be responsible for extras they added without checking with you.

laurenclaire1386

Uh no. You didn't invite 7 extra people. You had nothing to do with that, and I wouldn't feel bad in the slightest. The people bailing are people they invited without checking with you, so no, I wouldn't pitch in and I damn sure wouldn't feel guilty about it. 

adamar15

Nope, and I wouldn't feel bad either.

Winnertag1

Haha alright thanks ladies!

Thats what I figured too, I just felt bad, not anymore tho!

Thanks again!

Habs2Hart

First - No,I wouldn't pitch in.  It's not on you.  You didn't invite them.

Second - Where are you camping?

Winnertag1

Habs - We are going to Turkey Point

Habs2Hart

Boo!  I thought maybe you'd be coming up north where the camping is really good. 

achiduck

Nope, they invited them so they can cover the costs.

Winnertag1

In Response to Re:NWR Would you pitch in?:[QUOTE]Boo!nbsp; I thought maybe you'd be coming up north where the camping is really good.nbsp; Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]
FI wanted to as well hah, but we are going after work on Friday at 4 and coming back Sunday night so we didnt want to go too far.

Next time! Lol

aragx6

I agree with everyone else. If these were your mutual friends, perhaps, but they invited them and you didn't even know ahout it -- not your problem.

As an aside, this is why we rarely camp with groups anymore. If we do we say "We're camping here on this date. Feel free to book an adjoining site!"

Mrs.B6302007

They haven't asked you to chip in, have they? I hope not and that they don't!

Winnertag1

Thanks Ladies!

Mrs. B - No they havent asked to chip in, she did mention that now that the others backed out that they have to cancel other things they have planned since they dont have the money for it anymore and tried to get us to pay for other things ie, said we should drive up to their house after work and pick them up & then go camping so they dont have to pay for gas (they didnt say that exactly but it was obvious that was their intention). we said all our stuff wont fit in one car with all our camping stuff & our 2 dogs lol and their place isnt on the way for us (we live about an hour apart)

Winnertag1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_nwr-would-you-pitch-in-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:92d96495-2a64-46dd-a719-53087213cdb5Post:d0f9597d-d707-4796-a4ef-6dbc95465862">Re: NWR Would you pitch in?</a>:
[QUOTE]I wouldn't chip in either. They've made this bed for themselves to lie in. Also as an aside, are you sure your friends realize that this is what you are doing for your birthdays, it's not a "just because" camping trip? Because if they do, the way they went about it is super strange.
Posted by mrs.jesse[/QUOTE]
Yep they do know. When I invited them I sent the girl a text saying "FI & I are going to go camping for our birthdays, we cant do it our birthday weekend (FI's birthday is the day before mine) since we have a family reunion so we're going to do it the weekend before, do you and [her FI] want to come?" Which is why FI & I were annoyed, if it were a random weekend then go ahead - invite whomever but not for our birthdays. At this point they may have forgotten all about to though lol.

lily_721

I wouldn't feel bad.  They invited their "friends."  If its an issue about money, they should go back to those people.

mizutamababy

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[QUOTE]I wouldn't feel bad.  They invited their "friends."  If its an issue about money, they should go back to those people.
Posted by lily_721[/QUOTE]

This.  If the couple was offering to pay for everyone from the get go, it shouldn't matter whether they backed out or not because either way the amount is the same.

If these other people who cancelled were supposed to pay for themselves, it's up to that couple to get the money from them- not the both of you.  If they didn't have the foresight to tell these extra people that their agreement to go was something nonrefundible, not your problem, especially since they didn't even have the decency to ask you in advance.

I don't think it's a huge thing that they picked a campsite with electrical use since that might have been important to them and you did invite them so only fair to compromise.  However, I understand how that might be annoying to have to pay more for something you don't need on top of this thing about the people they invited without any input from ya'll not coming.

If you want to do something nice anyways for them, why not pitch in a little extra on beverages and food for while you're there and share.