Okay ladies, I need some help. This post will serve as a rant/HELP ME post. Anyone who takes the time to read through it and offer advice I will be forever greatful
Long story short, FMIL was going to through FI and I one of those tacky (IMO) Jack and Jill showers, where you have to pay for a ticket, etc etc. I had expressed to her and my MOH that I only want ONE bridal shower. Our families live 45 minutes away from each other (Plainfield and Mystic), there is no need for two seperate showers and all I wanted was everyone I care about in the same place. She forged ahead with this Jack and Jill against my wishes, and luckily today decided that she would not be able to afford it and would give us money towards our honeymoon- awesome, I am SO greatful and think that's great and I appreciate it!
So my MOH calls me- in tears- because FMIL called her and said instead of a Jack and Jill, she wants to throw me a seprate Bridal Shower from the one my MOH is throwing. She was going to do it the weekend before the shower my MOH was doing - and she said "I'll do games there, it won't be stuffy like yours" to my MOH. She also said she wanted it a complete surprise for me. MOH told me, because I have expressed ENDLESSLY that I only want one shower. My MOH has already begun planning my shower- and is excited about it. The guest lists will completely overlap, the issue is that FMIL has 7 sisters that "won't make the drive" so it's not fair to have it in Mystic. It's only 30 minutes of a drive. So MOH offers to have it up near her sisters. She still won't give in, and wants to give me a seperate shower.
I am greatful to have showers being thrown for me, but I feel very disrespected by FMIL and so does my MOH. I don't know what to do- all I want is one shower, with my ONE new family... isn't that what weddings are about? Isn't it important what I want? Please tell me if I'm off here and being rude/disrespectful, because I really don't know, and if I am I would like to stop!
Also, I can't talk to FMIL because I'm not supposed to know. FI is going to talk with her, so is my future sister in law- both against the second shower- but I'm just so frustrated.