Change the wedding date for my parents?

abrecko

So my sister is pregnant and is due a week before my wedding.... which we did not find out until after we picked a date and set it up with the church. My parents (who are paying for a big chunk of the wedding) now would like me to change the date and move it back atleast a week. It would help them out a lot and that way my steo mom wouldn't have to choose between my sister (who will probably have complications with her birth) and myself. However I have already had my heart set on this date and began making arrangements around it. Should I change it for the sake of my parents?

miss.jawright

how far away is your wedding? And have you put down any deposits?

Nebb

If you can I think it would be good to change the date, either forwards or backwards (more than just a week) to make sure your sister can still attend and make your parents happy. The date, regardless of which day you choose, will end up having sentimental value regardless because after all is said and done its your wedding day.

Ana_2985

I would definitely change the date.  I wouldn't want to risk not having my parents at my wedding.  But I don't think one week is really the way to go.  Babies are a week (or more) early or late all the time.  If you're worried about it, it would probably be best if you could change the date by a few weeks.

sarah0725

Well, as is definitely clear if you follow the news of new moms on this board, planning a wedding around the due date of a first time mom can be a real crapshoot, since you never know what's going to happen! The first thing you should probably do is talk to your venues and see if a change is even possible, and then maybe your sister to see how she feels. Is your sister local to the wedding? That might be something to consider...

But overall, I feel like you'd need to move it at least a month to have any assurance of not clashing with your sister. This is definitely a tough one.

karbar42

If you haven't put down deposits, and you have some time, it might be a good idea to adjust the date, as Nebb said, by more than one week.

What if she were to go into labor the night before or day of your wedding?  That would be really stressful for your parents who obviously want to be their for both of their daughters important moments.

Also, I don't know if you aren't close with your sister, but I wouldn't want to have my wedding without my sister being able to be there, and I'd definitely want to get to share in the excitement of my new niece/nephew, both of which would be difficult with your wedding date so close to her due date.

tenofcups4me

If it's at all possible, I'd change it by at least a month, probably two. I guess it would depend on what's already been booked and how easy or difficult it would be to change things with your vendors, but I would have done anything possible to ensure my sister would be at my wedding and my parents wouldn't have that kind of conflict.  

Catwoman708

Well, why doesn't your mom just talk your sister into a planned C-section a week eariler than her due date?  LOL, just kidding.

You mentioned your sis will likely have a complicated delivery.  That usually means early, or at least that the doc won't let her go past her due date.

If you and FI are agreeable to moving the date, then I'd suggest 2 weeks later, not just one.  Even if your sis delivers on time, one week doesn't give her much time to get back on her feet enough to attend something she'll have to dress up for. 

brookev11

If you will not lose $ on deposits and such, I would move it.  But more than a week, I would say several weeks. 

krmabojo

If you have put down deposits, then it will mean you are all loosing money. Then some onf your vendors might not be open for the earlier date.

BUT if you have not put money down on anything, go for it.

Actually, eitehr way, try to change it if you can.

brookelynpaisley

I would move it - and more than a week. Moving the wedding by that little doesn't guarantee you that the baby won't arrive. I'd move by at least a month if you can.

Calypso1977

i guess im in the minority here as i wouldnt move it.  you made yoru plans without knowing about the pregnancy.  a week wont really help much since babies can be full term and ok to deliver 3 weeks before the due date and until 3 weeks after.  so that's a window of 6 weeks.

i suppose if you dont have money down yet, you could move it, but i'd do it 2 months before/after.

even then, if she's having complications, she may deliver a preemie so even if you did it 2-3 months earlier, she could still have the baby.

would you be super upset if your step mom and/or sister had to miss your wedding?

amalama

I would, but I am really close with my sisters and would be so upset if one of them couldn't come to my wedding. I would move the wedding back, and definitely more than a week. I would go at least a month.

If you do it before, even a couple months before, there is still the risk she will be on bed rest or something (a small risk for most people, but you said she will probably have complications).

janderson

I would change it.  It's unfortunate for you and I understand your disappointment.. BUT it is just a number.  Your special day will be forever important no matter that date. I feel your connection to your family should take priority over your connection to a date.

Sorry though... it is a bummer.

And I strongly agree with other posts, move it a month or two... just  week is still a huge risk and then there's a chance no one will get what they wanted.