FI's littlest sister

sarahberry716

My fiance has a large family and the problem is, we have roles for everyone in the wedding except for his youngest sister. (2 brothers are groomsmen, one sister is a bridesmaid, one sister is MC/DJ)
She is 11 and we are going to have her pull the wagon for our ringbearer, but my FI wants another job for her as well.
We aren't having candles, because it is an outdoor wedding, so candlelighter is out.

I am unsure of what we could have her do...

Any suggestions?

MattsPenguin

Junior bridesmaid?  Reader?  Singer/instrumentalist?

OliveOilsMom

You could have her say a reading of some kind.  But do not demean her with a crap job, like guest book attendant or hand out programs. 

And being a guest is an honor too.

achiduck

I would say bridesmaid or jr. bridesmaid. Or, if you don't want to make your WP any bigger, I like the reader idea.

adamar15

Candlelighter?  Really? 

Meghannsix

I'd suggest bridesmaid or reader.  Don't give her a "job", she's already pulling a wagon, she shouldn't have to work so hard for a wedding that's not hers.

annakb8

My 9 year old brother didn't have a "job" even though my sister was a BM. It was no big deal. Not everyone needs a role. 

sarahberry716

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fis-littlest-sister?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9405c0ab-a0ef-439f-88e9-333790fd9c68Post:323ff5b5-ce2e-49bf-b6c2-841a61f44bde">Re: FI's littlest sister</a>:
[QUOTE]Am I the only one surprised that a family member is going to work the wedding? I just really think I wouldn't have my FI's sister be the DJ. I would think she'd want to enjoy the reception as a guest.
Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]

His sister asked to be the DJ, we aren't forcing anyone to do anything, I want everyone to be able to enjoy it too.

Kate61487

Am I the only one who's concerned about the ringbearer/wagon situation?  I'm guessing he's being stuck in a wagon b/c he's not old enough to walk.  Which makes me wonder if he's old enough to sit safely in a wagon being pulled over (likely) uneven ground.

Make her a jr BM or usher(ette)

RyansBelovedBride

I agree with the jr. bridesmaid suggestion.  I don't really know what else you could do... but maybe she or your FMIL does?

Starfish0116

My sister is 12 (13 at the time of the wedding) and she'll be just a regular bridesmaid. I know she would feel slighted at the thought of being a junior bridesmaid, because lord knows she thinks she's older than she really is.

I would say that pulling the ring bearer down the isle would sort of make her the flower girl. Why does she need an extra job?