pastor's fee

Jcbgs

Hi. I would like to know if your pay a fee for use of the church for wedding and reception what do you do for the minister if there is no fee? We are technically not members yet. We are planning on joing as soon as there is a new class. Thanks . I want to do the right thing.

Amyzen83

Because I've been a member at my church for years, they told me they don't charge members, so I'm thinking as a thank you guesture to my paster, I was going to give her either a monetary love gift or a nice gift card to one of her favorite places/stores/spa something along those lines to show her our appreciation. The church may require a donation for janitorial services but that I'd ask your church about.

Ajuliana

A "monetary love gift" is one strange, strange phrase.  As for church secretaries, they DO know everything.  But the one I just dealt with was on a power trip all her own, literally defying a direct request from the bishop because she didn't like being told what to do.  

My church charges $750 for being married there, and we are members.  I still don't think that includes a gift for the priest.  

Kate61487

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Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

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rachelm13

i'd like a jersey... can mine also have fake mr. t chains on the front?

OP, my FIs dad is the deacon marrying us and it still is costing $500 for the church.  (No perks for being the Deacon's son, dagnabbit).  That cost sometimes also covers the organist and/or soloist, but it may not, so that may be an additional fee.  Definitely worth calling the church to find out.

Also, something weird I found out, not all organists are created equal, if your church has more than one, you may want to listen to each one...

As for a gift if there is no fee, which would be odd, but, I want to be helpful, we got his dad a portable eucharist holder thing with a mini bottle to carry holy water.  You can maybe get something along the religious lines like I did or make a donation to a charity in his name.  Or if he has a favorite sports team, maybe get him a ticket or two to go to a game.  I know the priest at FIs church is a HUGE METS/JETS fan.  A couple got him two tickets to go to a METS game for their gift.  He went with the other priest that I don't know as well.  It stuck in my mind as a unique idea.

Amyzen83

Thank you StageManager14 for coming to my defense!

Just to clarify, Pastor Jenny who is marrying us, is also a friend of mine, for many years I'd help her decorate for the evening church service and she's always been there for me. Even though there's no mandatory fee, I still want to show her appreciation for her time and services with either money or a gift card. At my church they call non-tithes or fees "Love gifts". Every certain amount of years a key staff member has served the church people will rally together and save X amount of dollars to send that person on a nice vacation.

Jayceestar27

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Jcbgs

Thanks for all your post it's been fun to watch. I will defintly get my pastor something as she is do the wedding and rehearsal on her days off. Yes there will be fees but don't know how much yet.