My fiance and I are getting married in Chicago (where we live). I am from St Louis so my sister in law is hosting a small shower for me there with just my family. My BMs want to have another shower for me in chicago with friends and fiance family. Question - most of his aunts and cousins live in Minnesota and doubt they would come in for the shower. Do i invite them anyways? I don't want them to think I"m fishing for gifts and some of them i've only met once or twice. What is the etiquette?