Groom's cold feet warmed up... what to write on New Invitations???

jezabelly8

Basically my fiance got cold feet 2 weeks before our scheduled wedding last May 2012 and because I didnt want to marry someone with doubts who didnt feel 100% sure, I called of the wedding.  There was no foul play, no fight, no true reason behind it... just pure insecurity and nerves.

An extremely long story shortened, after begging for a second chance and doing every thing he can to win me back, he has done more than his share of apologies to me, both families and friends and he no longer doubts a thing and we are ready to tie the knot again...

Being such an awkward situation, even though everyone is happy we have worked things out, I have NO CLUE what to put on these invitations.  I want it to be light and funny and joyful that we are back together and are ready to be happily married... but we want to acknowledge that we realize this is strange.... any creative thoughts or ideas???

dumdumfroggie

Had you sent out STDs or invites before this happened?

If not, I don't see any reason why you'd have to include anything special on the invitations.

sister2groom

I don't think there's any way to aknowledge it in an invite without it being akward. Why not just tell people verbally what you said here?

Kate61487

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[QUOTE]Basically my fiance got cold feet <strong>2 weeks before our scheduled wedding last May 2012</strong>and because I didnt want to marry someone with doubts who didnt feel 100% sure, I called of the wedding.  There was no foul play, no fight, no true reason behind it... just pure insecurity and nerves. An extremely long story shortened, after begging for a second chance and doing every thing he can to win me back, he has done more than his share of apologies to me, both families and friends and he no longer doubts a thing and we are ready to tie the knot again... Being such an awkward situation, even though everyone is happy we have worked things out, I have NO CLUE what to put on these invitations.  I want it to be light and funny and joyful that we are back together and are ready to be happily married... but we want to acknowledge that we realize this is strange.... any creative thoughts or ideas???
Posted by jezabelly8[/QUOTE]

I'm guessing this was supposed to be 2010 or 2011?  So it was just two weeks before the wedding when you called it off and everyone had already been invited/rsvp'd

Are you having a formal wedding or something more laid back?  If you were going to have a quirky invitation regardless it might be kind of cute to do something like "Jezabelly and FI
together with their families
request the pleasure of your company, <em>again
</em>as they unite in marriage....."

But I wouldn't want to sully a more traditional formal invitation with any kind of sarcastic commentary, so if you're having a formal wedding just let it be.

kroot87

I don't think it's necessary to address any of that in an invite.

jezabelly8

Yes, we had sent our Save the Dates and the Formal Invitations the first time and called off the wedding only 2 weeks before it was supposed to happen.  It was my thought that it would seem strange to receive another invite from the same couple with a new date and no acknowledgement of what happened... but if that seems like what everyone thinks, I am more than happy to do it. 

I just thought there might be a cute way to do it... Like "Jess and Adam's Wedding.... Take Two" or something light hearted and more clever...

KatePlusNate04

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[QUOTE]In Response to Groom's cold feet warmed up... what to write on New Invitations??? : I'm guessing this was supposed to be 2010 or 2011?  So it was just two weeks before the wedding when you called it off and everyone had already been invited/rsvp'd Are you having a formal wedding or something more laid back?  If you were going to have a quirky invitation regardless it might be kind of cute to do something like "Jezabelly and FI together with their families request the pleasure of your company, again as they unite in marriage....." But I wouldn't want to sully a more traditional formal invitation with any kind of sarcastic commentary, so if you're having a formal wedding just let it be.
Posted by Kate61487[/QUOTE]

I agree with all of this. If it's an informal invitation, I think the wording Kate suggested is cute. But if it's formal, I would just go with a traditional wording and leave it at that. You might tell people by word of mouth before invites go out (at leasst those close to you) that the wedding is back on and you hope they will join you.

jezabelly8

Yes, sorry, it was scheduled May 2011 originally...

Megbo2012

I probably wouldn't mention it.  As PPs said, it's not necessary.  If I had gotten the invite Kate suggested I'd laugh, for sure.  But personally, I would be all about moving forward, and forgetting about it.

Maggie0829

Do not acknowledge what happened.  Doing that would be like slapping your FI across the face.  If you have truly forgiven him for getting cold feet then I would never bring it up again.  Even if you want to make it light hearted it will still hurt his feelings and the light hearted statement will be like rubbing salt into his wounds.  He feels horrible about what he did (even though it was a smart thing to do because it would have been worse if you did get married and then he wanted out a few months later...hello Kim and Kris Humphries!) and he has apologized so why keep bringing it up.  If you don't let what happend go, you will both slowly start resenting each other.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]Yes, we had sent our Save the Dates and the Formal Invitations the first time and called off the wedding only 2 weeks before it was supposed to happen.  It was my thought that it would seem strange to receive another invite from the same couple with a new date and no acknowledgement of what happened... but if that seems like what everyone thinks, I am more than happy to do it.  <strong>I just thought there might be a cute way to do it... Like "Jess and Adam's Wedding.... Take Two" or something light hearted and more clever...</strong>
Posted by jezabelly8[/QUOTE]

I really wouldn't think that was funny. 

tpender13

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[QUOTE]Yes, we had sent our Save the Dates and the Formal Invitations the first time and called off the wedding only 2 weeks before it was supposed to happen.  <strong>It was my thought that it would seem strange to receive another invite from the same couple with a new date and no acknowledgement of what happened...</strong> but if that seems like what everyone thinks, I am more than happy to do it.  I just thought there might be a cute way to do it... Like "Jess and Adam's Wedding.... Take Two" or something light hearted and more clever...
Posted by jezabelly8[/QUOTE]

I don't think it would be strange. I would imagine that your guests know the gist of the story with you and your FI, so I wouldn't bother making reference to it on your invitation.

jezabelly8

Thanks Everyone! 

The LAST thing I would want to do is make it look like we havent gotten past everything that happened!  He and I can look back and make jokes about how silly it seems now, but I think we will keep that between us and our immediate family.

 I really appreciate the input, I defintiely dont want to make it look like we are holding any bad feelings about it all.

emarston1

As a guest, I would assume if I got a second invitation that means the couple are past whatever happened the first time.  I wouldn't need something cute or funny on the invitation to acknowledge it.

I wouldn't mention anything different in the invitation.