First Etiquette post... and awkward invite situation

Frivian

Hi all! I'm new to the Etiquette board, but I've lurked a bit, and hopefully you all can help me! I've run into an awkward situation with an acquaintance and need advice. I'll try to make the long story short...

I am "friends" (more like acquaintances) with a teenage girl that I know because we share the same hobby and used to be part of the same circle oriented around this hobby. Her parents often accompany her to events, and I know them both. However, right before I was getting ready to send out my invitations, they moved out of state, and I doubt we will really keep in touch anymore.

I sent my invitations out and invited 2 couples that I'm friends with from that same social circle. However, I excluded them and several others in the same group because, hey I can't invite everyone. I trusted the ones I did invite to stay somewhat quiet about it, and anyway I am far closer with them than I am with the rest, including this girl and her parents.

I was recently talking with her over text message, and she told me that her mother wondered if I could mail her an invitation "just so she could see what it looks like." I feel very uncomfortable about this, because 1. she wasn't invited, and 2. it's obvious now that she knows she wasn't invited. Not to mention I ran out of some of the pieces of the invitation package, so while I could technically send her an invitation, it would be without most of the other parts (envelope, response card, etc.).

What should I do?
Thanks!

JessAndTrav

I agree with everything Edie said.

People are so weird---why do they care what the invites look like? Get a life, people.

MJandDL

If she brings it up again, I would tell her you don't have any extras to send and then change the subject.

PhoneCardLady

You could take a pic of the invitation with your phone and send it as an attachment to a text, but I agree with the others....

Simply Fated

I'd send a picture of it, if you want to.
My friend spent about $1.50 on postage for each of her invitations. The invitation itself cost money, too. So there is no way I'd suggest sending an invitation to anyone just so they could see it.
I'd just ignore the request and hope it all goes away lol.

lauraanne9

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_first-etiquette-post-and-awkward-invite-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:95da1e78-14d1-44fb-9ab8-8bc611b6a74ePost:a29fbee0-2b5c-4ae6-b64f-99c37cdf7da8">Re: First Etiquette post... and awkward invite situation</a>:
[QUOTE]You could take a pic of the invitation with your phone and send it as an attachment to a text, but I agree with the others....
Posted by PhoneCardLady[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>At first I thought of this too.  But I quickly excluded it.  It really is up to the couple who is invited,and those who are not extended an invitation are not invited for a specific reason.  I think sending her pieces of it, or a photo, is really just adding additional time to a aituation and issue that really should never have come up and should be just allowed to die a natural death.</div>

roseofdeborah

Wow, that made me feel awkward reading this. If it was the teenage girl that asked I would definately just ignore it. I can't imagine having to say no to that but then you can't really say yes either.

Summer2011Bride

I would just respond by text and say, "Sorry, I sent out all my invitations already and don't have any extras." I think if you ignore it, it may just delay the convo, as if she was the kind of person to be OK texting you this to begin with, chances are she may not drop it and keep asking.

kmmssg

I'm kinda thinking the teen wants the invitation, not the mom.  Tell her you don't have any more.

rsaleh84

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_first-etiquette-post-and-awkward-invite-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:95da1e78-14d1-44fb-9ab8-8bc611b6a74ePost:7a75b2cc-6b94-49eb-9695-dfd3a49a32f6">Re: First Etiquette post... and awkward invite situation</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>Wow, that made me feel awkward reading this</strong>. If it was the teenage girl that asked I would definately just ignore it. I can't imagine having to say no to that but then you can't really say yes either.
Posted by roseofdeborah[/QUOTE]

Me too!!  I would ignore as well...super tacky to ask this, especially since you are not close.

Kate61487

I'd also just tell her you don't have any left.  It's basically true (since you're out of some pieces) and at least it will end there and you won't have the possibility of it coming up hanging over you.

mizutamababy

I had a friend (not super close; we hang out every few years when we can) that I knew wasn't going to be able to make it, but we sent her an invite anyway because she still wanted one and it made her happy.

No harm in telling the truth if you don't have one and don't really care to make the effort, but I would probably just send what I had or make a new one because in the end it's not a huge request and I'm sure she'd be really happy you thought of her.

jesslynn1012

Did you make all of your invites by hand?  I could see if you were both big scrapbookers or whatever and very crafty and she wanted to see how you did them... maybe?  I would either send a picture of it or just simply apologize and say you don't have any extra. 

ems27

I think she was fishing for an actual invite to the wedding- I would definitely just tell her you sent them out already!

Frivian

Thanks so much for all your advice! I have informed the girl that I don't have any left (over text...) She seemed to understand. I hope that's the end of the awkwardness!