Venue rules for attire

therickson

Quick question ladies - advance warning I may have to post and run!

Our wedding is at a country club that specifies no denim. Is it ok to put this on the details card? I had it posted on our website but I just saw it on our invite mock-up. Would you find this rude? 

It states

Note: Blahblahblah Golf club requests no denim please.

TIA!

shellydiane820

I'd go with word of mouth.

angiebear11

Sounds good to me.

JessAndTrav

I would use word of mouth and have a blurb about it on your webpage. Include the web address in the invitations.

sucrets4

Don't wear denim, bitches?

No?

I think it's fine.  It's a venue rule, not yours.  Even though I'd never wear denim to a wedding, if it means that people will be turned away, then I think it's fine to include it.

MeaghanandMichael

If your venue absolutely does not allow something (as many private clubs don't) you need to put it on the invite. I really am not a fan of this, but it is much much worse to have people literally turned away from the reception because of jeans, or not having a jacket, or flipflops. I would rather look bossy on my invite than not be able to accommodate their guests when they show up.

I guess you could rely on word of mouth, but you would have to know your crowd and how much the pay attention/are receptive to/are used  to this type of thing

opalsky007

I agree with Meaghan. Normally I am not a fan of attire specifications, but how embarrassing would that be to be turned away at the door. Put it on the invite. Your wording sounds fine.

luckyme502

I think since it is a venue requirement you can safely put it on your invite. 

therickson

I don't think we would have a ton of people show up in jeans... I guess I need to find out if they would kick them out or not!

I don't think I really like it on there but I would hate to have a problem later!

sucrets4

If you don't put it ON the invite, what about as an insert?

therickson

I guess that people may show up in jeans... at our friends wedding 3 of the guys were wearing jeans and suit coats. There guys will also be at our wedding as well. 

therickson

Oh it is on an insert! Sorry I did not specify that!

MeaghanandMichael

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_venue-rules-attire?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9603da7e-ab03-46ab-8b64-8318eb6556faPost:a42995f3-268f-4bca-bad4-9bc2a979c130">Re: Venue rules for attire</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh it is on an insert! Sorry I did not specify that!
Posted by therickson[/QUOTE]


You're good to go then!

therickson

Thank you all! I really wanted a second opinion! 

Got to run!

tenofcups4me

I guess it depends on your crowd. I personally wouldn't put it on an invitation or a web site because I would assume no one would attend my wedding in denim to begin with. If I had concerns about any one person, I'd let them know personally. But if you think your guests would wear denim, then I'd put it somewhere on the web site (and still try to let individuals know personally).

Phoeber

I agree with a lot of the other posters.  I think it would be far worse for someone to show up in jeans and be turned away than for you to put it on an insert in the invite.