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Completely stupid wedding mistakes

So what was the one thing you did when planning your wedding that, later on in the planning (or even afterwards) you want to go back in time and kick yourself square in the ass for?

Myself, it was allowing the venue I wanted to go with see that I was really excited about it.  Totally killed my chance at negotiating anything once they knew they had me on the hook.  The venue was the first thing we looked for, so it was early on in the planning. 

Also, two of my vendors requested deposits of 50% and 60%, and they weren't even big ones like the venue or caterer.  And I booked them almost a year before the wedding, and ended up dropping one of them.  Now I wish I had of negotiated a smaller deposit.  At the time, I thought it was totally normal and A-OK.

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    I walked down the aisle to "Cannon in D".

    Proofread people!
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    Hmm, there are many.

    I wish I hadn't put "black tie optional" on my invite because seriously, people KNOW when they see the invite how they should dress.

    I also wish that we had done fortune cookie favors or at least something that people could eat. We got fans because it usually gets hot and come day of the wedding, it was so windy. There was no need for fans!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_completely-stupid-wedding-mistakes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:96e29d0e-1e60-4d24-9680-886a49abe3c4Post:f7220f12-2960-49ef-ad73-0c9ca5c20e91">Re: Completely stupid wedding mistakes</a>:
    [QUOTE]I walked down the aisle to "Cannon in D". Proofread people!
    Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

    Unfortunately, I have a feeling that not a lot of people would notice this unless they're musicians.  :) 
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    I wish I had strongly encouraged (I'm trying to avoid using the word force here) FI to cut his groomsmen list down.  I also wish I hadn't tried to make the sides even.  Clearly I should have started lurking here earlier.
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    I picked my dress too early. I bought it 13 months before my wedding. Granted it did take almost 6 months to be delivered, but still I wish I had waited. I love my dress, but I think i might have selected something else.
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    I wish I hadn't had so many bridesmaids.  They mostly just got on my nerves all day, and I've never admitted this on here before, because I didn't want to be a beebee, but one of them ruined my bachelorette party.

    I wish I had given the bridal party a timeline.  Everyone on here said it was bridezilla-y, but it would have prevented 2 members of our bridal party from wandering off and making us all an hour late to the reception.
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    ggmaeggmae member
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    Not getting everything in writing, and getting screwed over. I'll never make that mistake again.

    Making sure that FIL was aware that we were taking pictures BEFORE the ceremony on wedding day. We swear that we told him, but he says he didn't know. He missed out of pre-ceremony family photos and we have about 4 pictures of him from the day.

    Making sure that the maitre'd knew who the grandparents were and that they were supposed to sit in the front row. I was really sad about this.



    Amy - I really like that dress. AA dresses are generally NMS, but that was one that I really liked when I took a look at their website.
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    I would have picked a different bouquet.  It was a choice between two, two days before the wedding and I had finally found a florist that would deliver them at 7 AM.  By that time I just didn't care anymore.

    Oh, and I would not eat KFC the night before. 
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_completely-stupid-wedding-mistakes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:96e29d0e-1e60-4d24-9680-886a49abe3c4Post:36b3c28b-83f3-4b6c-87e9-6b114b8d8f0a">Re: Completely stupid wedding mistakes</a>:
    [QUOTE]I wish I had strongly encouraged (I'm trying to avoid using the word force here) FI to cut his groomsmen list down.  I also wish I hadn't tried to make the sides even.  Clearly I should have started lurking here earlier.
    Posted by Kati0105[/QUOTE]

    *whispers*  me too
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    thanks gg
    Ya I am just so wishy washy about it. Some days I absolutly love it, some days I stress myself out by looking at other dresses online that I should have tried on. I think I was just so excited to be engaged and I wanted to get the dress. Last week I almost went out and bought another dress.
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    Oh go heels just reminded me of another thing I did that was really bad.


    After I was a MOH for one of my BMs, I knew that I didn't want her to plan my B party because she was a prude/embarrassment at her B party that I threw for her. I took her to SF for pride week and we went to a gay club because they're more fun (she wanted to) and she began taking photos of random people making out (mainly 2 guys) and she would pose in the picture with a shocked face. I kept telling her that it was innappropriate and how would she feel if someone were making weird faces while she and her FI made out. (I made her cry)

    I then told another bm that "I want you to plan my B party because is bm#2 gets ahold of it, it's gonna be a disaster."

    I know now that I should never have said it like that. I should have waited for a party to be offered. I also know now that if someone close to me gets engaged that I should speak up early if I want to throw them a party!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_completely-stupid-wedding-mistakes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:96e29d0e-1e60-4d24-9680-886a49abe3c4Post:6680c127-d2df-42ac-b8a8-ec4c4e33a6af">Re: Completely stupid wedding mistakes</a>:
    [QUOTE]thanks gg Ya I am just so wishy washy about it. Some days I absolutly love it, some days I stress myself out by looking at other dresses online that I should have tried on. I think I was just so excited to be engaged and I wanted to get the dress. Last week I almost went out and bought another dress.
    Posted by mrsamyjones[/QUOTE]


    I am having dress waffling too!  Saw pics on a makeup site of another girl in it and hated it.  Tried it on again and love it!  I think sometimes I just need to stop looking and be satisfied.
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    ggmaeggmae member
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    Amy - Well, try to put that behind you now. You have < 4 months left and you don't need that added stress. Is the dress all fitted and altered? Do you have pics of you in it??
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    For a newb on this forum AND a newly engaged bride....this thread is AWESOME.  It sucks some things didn't work out for ya'll but seriously helps us newbs out.  Props.
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    [QUOTE]Amy - Well, try to put that behind you now. You have < 4 months left and you don't need that added stress. Is the dress all fitted and altered? Do you have pics of you in it??
    Posted by ggmae[/QUOTE]

    I have my first fitting march 17 so it's not fitted or anything. I dont have any pics but I'll try to get them up here when I do.
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    I also assumed that because we met with the DJ and finalized things a week before the wedding, that he'd remember to bring the mic and download our first dance song. Did he? Nope. Most of our guests couldn't hear us during our outdoor ceremony and we had to pick a different first dance song a minute before we were supposed to dance. I guess I should have called him a few days before the wedding, but the success of that meeting made me feel as though he had everything covered.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Completely stupid wedding mistakes : I have my first fitting march 17 so it's not fitted or anything. I dont have any pics but I'll try to get them up here when I do.
    Posted by mrsamyjones[/QUOTE]

    Awesome!
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    Thinking the same thing, about lessons learned.  So far:

    1.  My daughter is my *only* attendant.  My sisters will be over-enthusiastic guests and that works for me.
    2.  I'm inviting only who I want there (except for one but that's a long story).
    3.  I'm getting the dress I want (and it's short! gasp!)
    4.  Not going to get all over-involved in details.
    5.  Open bar, natch

    and OK, no KFC before wedding.  I will be in Mexico, so that's a given.   Thanks ladies!  :  )
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    I wish I had gone bridezilla on my mom and made her go home right after the RD.  She went to the hotel to hang out with everyone getting to town and ended up drinking too much and staying out too late.  She was miserable and sick the whole day. 

    I also wish I'd just given the BMs a color and let them deal with it.  Everyone liked the dress, but I know SIL would have chosen something else. 
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    i wish i'd made my life much simpler and gone with the dress i knew was flattering, rather than taking my chances with a custom job that i didn't know how it was going to turn out. in retrospect i think i would've liked the former better.

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    I also wish i shopped around for a photographer.
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    Oh, and I wish we'd done a first look and done all of our pics before.  Our aisle was so long that it was just silly to wait. 
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    DeepCove, never assume!  The best KFC I've had was in Egypt.

    i(n my defense, I don't even like KFC.  The Egypt was becuase I had been traveling for 36 hours and wanted something I could order off of pictures, and the night before the wedding that's what the kids wanted and I was too tired to argue).

    It was the salt that puffed me up a lot!
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    I wish I had told my venue coordinator EXACTLY what I wanted returned to me at the end of the night.  The staff simply tossed all my pretty DIY items that were left behind on dinner tables...  the menus, escort cards, etc.  Not a big deal, but I was still a bit bummed.
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    I wish I would have said NOTHING to my family about potential wedding ideasfor the first two or three months of our engagement until we'd made up our minds about what we wanted.

    Like, I mentioned ONCE to my aunt that we were maybe thinking of using a cherry blossom motif on stuff.  A year later, she's still looking for things with cherry blossoms on them for the wedding even though we scrapped that idea pretty quickly (and told her we did).  The minute I say something about the wedding, everyone grabs onto it and doesn't let go, even if I say, "this is just an IDEA" before I say anything.

    I wish I'd picked a more forgiving wedding dress.  I'm scared shitless it will look like crap on me now.
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    Shellydiane--Curious, why would you ever have wanted a different photographer.  Your wedding photos are epic!  Really!  I'm surprised to hear you say that.
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    I wish we would have saved longer to afford a better photographer.

    I wish I hadn't have tried to make everyone happy. Because of this, I don't feel like it was "our" party.
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    I wish I hadn't taken off my dress before doing the 4th meal trip to Taco Bell after the after party. Yes, we seriously went to Taco Bell (DH in his tux and me in a sun dress) and there were 2 of our guests walking through the drive through. I kept the receipt

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    [QUOTE]I wish I hadn't taken off my dress before doing the 4th meal trip to Taco Bell after the after party. Yes, we seriously went to Taco Bell (DH in his tux and me in a sun dress) and there were 2 of our guests walking through the drive through. I kept the receipt
    Posted by stina93446[/QUOTE]

    No shame there.  We hit Taco John's for a churro and potato ole fwith cheese sauce fix.
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    OK

    7.  Avoid salt to offset inevitable bloating.  Added to list now, thanks a Mrs in 09.  Really can't get KFC where I will be, it's a teensy fishing village.  But salt point v helpful thanks!  Esp in hotter climate!

    Amy--your dress is beautiful!  Really.  I think it will be stunning.  Post photos at the fitting and DO NOT buy another dress.  Nope.  Don't do it!
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