Reheasal dinner

misskassie11

2 of our groomsmen are/will be married before our rehearsal dinner. do we invite their spouses also? The spouses are not part of the wedding party

JaxInBlue

Yes.  SOs should be invited to the rehearsal dinner. 

Calypso1977

regardless of marriage, SO's (or dates) should be invited to the RD.

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]2 of our groomsmen are/will be married before our rehearsal dinner. do we invite their spouses also? The spouses are not part of the wedding party
Posted by misskassie11[/QUOTE]

Yes, anyone in a relationship should have their significant other (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, fiance, partner, etc.) invited to the RD.

itzMS

Yes. You should invite the spouses and dates of all of your wedding party.

lyndausvi

yep.  Plus any other SO's

stephie25

My FI is on his way down to a rehersal dinner that I was not invited to - we were both pretty annoyed, as were all the other SOs that got left out.

MrsMack10612

Absolutely - SOs should be invited.

I'm not sure it ever occurred to us to NOT invite them.  The SOs of our bridal party are as much our friends as the bridal party.

stephie25

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[QUOTE]Absolutely - SOs should be invited. I'm not sure it ever occurred to us to NOT invite them.  The SOs of our bridal party are as much our friends as the bridal party.
Posted by kjhowd[/QUOTE]

<div>This. Also, it's made traveling to the wedding more complicated for us. I wasn't about to take a day off work to stay the night down there tonight when I wasn't even invited to the dinner. I understand it was a financial thing, but with all the money my FI is spending to be in the wedding, I thought it was rude. I would have had a backyard BBQ before I didn't invite the SOs.</div>

AMYM312

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[QUOTE]My FI is on his way down to a rehersal dinner that I was not invited to - we were both pretty annoyed, as were all the other SOs that got left out.
Posted by stephie25[/QUOTE]

In this case I would have no problem inviting myself and the other SO should do the same.

cwaggoner07

Ditto to all PP's - MUST invite, even if they are just dating.

stephie25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Reheasal dinner : In this case I would have no problem inviting myself and the other SO should do the same.
Posted by AMYM312[/QUOTE]

<div>ooooh, I thought about it! Especially after I sent an invitation for my rehersal dinner next month!</div>

MrsMack10612

Heck - we invited extra OOT guests to ours tool.

It boggles my mind how many people think it's ok to exclude SOs from various events.  Our WP SOs hung out in the church while we did the rehearsal, they were all welcome to hang with the guys or girls while they were getting ready.

This is a day (or weekend depending on events) centered around love and coupledom - why on God's green earth would you want to exclude half of a couple?

achiduck

No matter the status of a relationship - dating 3 weeks, living together, engaged, married SOs have to be invited.

Love11506

Yes always invite the SO's to the dinner but not to the actual rehersal

MrsMack10612

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[QUOTE]Yes always invite the SO's to the dinner but not to the actual rehersal
Posted by Love11506[/QUOTE]

What's wrong with inviting them to the rehearsal?  What are the SOs supposed to do for the 1/2-hour during that?

KellyBrian2013

In Response to Re:Reheasal dinner:[QUOTE]Yes always invite the SO's to the dinner but not to the actual rehersal Posted by Love11506[/QUOTE]

Why wouldn't you invite SOs to the rehearsal? DH was invited to my best friend's when I was her MOH and sat quietly in a pew. All SOs sat quietly in the 2nd and 3rd rows at our rehearsal before joining us for dinner.

MrsMack10612

Same here Kelly.  We had some that couldn't make the rehearsal (or dinner for that matter); but they were more than welcome at both.

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Reheasal dinner : What's wrong with inviting them to the rehearsal?  What are the SOs supposed to do for the 1/2-hour during that?
Posted by kjhowd[/QUOTE]

<div>I was wondering the same thing.   We invited the SO's to come.  They all declined.  I don't blame them, the RD (really welcome party for everyone) was at our beach house rental.  They just went there early and got the party started.   </div><div>
</div><div>Under normal circumstances having the SO there means they don't have to take 2 cars.  Why inconvenience my WP with having 2 cars when I didn't have to?</div>