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hey guys!

i mostly lurk around here but something happened yesterday and my first reaction was "i gotta post this on the knot" so i think that might be a sign that my lurking days are over.

yesterday i ran into a girl i knew high school but who i pretty much haven't seen since then.  i found out through the facebook grapevine that she got married recently, so naturally i asked her about that.  she told me that they'd eloped after knowing each other for 4 months.  not what i'd do, but not the end of the world either.  here's the kicker:

they're planning a "wedding" for 2011 with the white dress, the bridesmaids, the bouquets, the cake, everything!  when she said that she got married a couple months ago but the wedding was in 2011, i said "oh, you mean like a vow renewal?" and she said "no, a wedding!  it's so much less stressful to plan a wedding once you're already married!"

luckily we were talking in the line at the grocery store and i was done checking out and could leave at that point or my head would've exploded.

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  • that girl definitely needs to visit the (P&)E board for some attitude adjustment.  quickly.
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  • I am still amazed at the number of people who do this. I don't know a single person in real life who has done this or thought about it or is thinking about doing it, and that includes 3 couples with at least one person in the military. I'm going to a wedding next weekend actually where the guy is being deployed in January, but they planned a "real" wedding in a couple of months instead of a quickie now and big one later. I do. not. understand.
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  • i don't get it either.  i should also point out that there were no extenuating circumstances like deployment that made them "need" to elope . . . from what other friends have said, it sounds like they just woke up one day and decided to get married.
    i also don't get why they're waiting for 2011.  maybe they figure if they're still together in 2 years, it'll be cause for celebration?  
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_omg-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:973f02aa-a9e7-43b2-a5a1-5b8c41c9f019Post:b26b2d3d-0683-49ea-b0eb-f0a231cd2aa8">Re: omg</a>:
    [QUOTE]i don't get it either.  i should also point out that there were no extenuating circumstances like deployment that made them "need" to elope . . . from what other friends have said, it sounds like they just woke up one day and decided to get married. i also don't get why they're waiting for 2011.  maybe they figure if they're still together in 2 years, it'll be cause for celebration?  
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    *snort*
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  • This is what my brother and his fiancee are doing. They just met in June and plan to get married soon. He'll deploy in August/September and they'll have their "real wedding" after he gets back in 2011.
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  • I would have said, "Oh..." and faked a smile and run on my merry way.  Sometimes I have a bad poker face.
  • Gg, how do you feel about that? Are they calling it a wedding? Or a vow renewal?
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  • My friend is doing this exactly.  They eloped one day out of the blue a few months ago, and have been going between 2 states every so often to see each other until just recently when she moved to be with him.  She's planning a 2011 "wedding" and flipped out on everyone on Myspace and Facebook for telling her it wasn't actually a wedding.  I kept my mouth shut.
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