Decline wedding but want to send a gift

flojo973

Hi Ladies,

We had one of our guests email us that he can't make it to the wedding, which we figured.  He then said that he would like to send a gift and asked where we are registered.  I feel funny just replying back and saying "we're registered at Macy's".  I really don't want him to feel obligated to send a gift since he's young and he lives overseas.  Is there a polite way to say "no need to send a gift" or should I send him the registry info since he asekd?  I guess I'm just looking for a nice way to word the response without seeming gift-grabby.

Thanks!

lilphillips14

I would simply say "We're registered at Macy's, but we really don't expect a gift. I really appreciate the thought, though, so and so."

And then go on and ask him how he is, hope he's doing well, etc etc. If he asked, it's not impolite to give him the information. 

MuppetOverlord

Yeah, that. He's brought it up instead of just declining. It's not gift-grabby

flojo973

Perfect!  I knew you ladies would have some good language for me!  Thanks!

OwningAHome1981

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[QUOTE]Hi Ladies, We had one of our guests email us that he can't make it to the wedding, which we figured.  He then said that he would like to send a gift and asked where we are registered.  I feel funny just replying back and saying "we're registered at Macy's".  I really don't want him to feel obligated to send a gift since he's young and he lives overseas.  Is there a polite way to say "no need to send a gift" or should I send him the registry info since he asekd?  I guess I'm just looking for a nice way to word the response without seeming gift-grabby. Thanks!
Posted by flojo973[/QUOTE]

He is the who asked about the gift so it's not gift-grabby to give him the info he asked for. Now if you had said where you are registered without him asking, then THAT would have been gift-grabby.

i would tell him where you are registered, tell him he is so kind for wanting to send a gift but he really doesn't have to and that you will miss him at the wedding.