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So....FI broke his heel yesterday. He tried to take a couch to Goodwill that had been at his mom's and they wouldn't take it because while he was on his way, it started raining.  Well he'd already cut the ties securing the couch to the Jeep roof before anyone came out and said they can't take it, so he had to climb back up and resecure the couch. Jumped back to the ground (and maybe a little harder since he was miffed) and bam. Broken.  Went to the ER, definitely broken, and sees specialist tomorrow. On crutches, no weight allowed on foot. And everything I am seeing online is even for minor fractures (like his), it says 6-8 weeks, no weight at all. So that means crutches for ceremony. Which means no first dance, no dance with his mom, the bouquet'garter toss we had planned would be tricky, a grand red carpet entrance with crutches, and yeah, just suckage.  

I mean, I realize it could be way worse and we're lucky, but I've worked so hard on everything and he just doesn't understand why I'm upset and a little mad. He thinks everything will be the same for the wedding and it won't. And the honeymoon? Definitely out if he's on crutches/in cast for 6-8 weeks.  Postponement IS a possibility but that depends on if the doc clears him for work where he'd be sitting all day.  But if he can't even do that and has to be on medical leave for the whole time, there is NO way he can be out 8 weeks then go back and say "oh in 2 weeks I am taking my honeymoon."

and the topper?  He got his health benefit cards in the mail so we were like "Thank GOD!"  Haha, coverage not effective til August 1, so looks like we'll get a $X,000 bill from the hospital as a wedding present!!! Yayyyyyyy!

And this is a P&R for now--still have trainees til Thursday, but I will check in when I can.  I just needed to vent.
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    Oh Pirata, I'm so so so sorry!  That sucks so freakin' bad. 

    I know it might not help right now, but seriously even with crutches or one of those boot things on his foot, it's okay for the wedding!  Maybe you guys can sit for the ceremony, he can still do an entrance on crutches, and he can probably still do a gimpy dance.  You guys will be getting married and you will be so happy and excited that day, and you'll be having so much fun with each other and family and friends, that something like him being on crutches won't ruin the day, trust me.  It'll be a funny story someday that you'll tell. 

    I say this from a similar experience of when my H jumped up in our living room and landed and somehow broke BOTH knees.  It was a completely freak accident, just like your FI, that no one would have thought could or would happen.  Just know that your FI didn't mean to do it, he didn't think he was doing anything dangerous you know?  At least it's just crutches and not a wheelchair!
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    That does suck, so sorry!

    Maybe you can do something creative like a seated receiving line since it would be hard for him to hobble around to greet all the guests.  Just try to think of ways to modify what you've already planned to make the best of it.

    As my fiance is fond of saying, "Just Relax....."
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    So sorry, that sucks. They may give him one of these, to wear, which could increase the possibility of walking/dancing:

    http://www.google.ca/images?hl=en&q=air%20boot&um=1&ie=UTF-8&source=og&sa=N&tab=wi


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    Preppy--we're almost certain that's what he'll get, but everything I've seen so far points to no weight allowed on it. So we'll have to see what the doc says tomorrow.  If he CAN use that and walk, it would be AWESOME! Because we definitely could get around the dances with that etc. But crutches totally puts another whole wrench into plans and logistics. 
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    Oh no, that completely sucks.  I'm so sorry!

    I've been reminding FI to be careful every time he goes ... well, basically anywhere.  Some (all?) guys just think they're invincible and can lift a couch, jump a crevasse, dive off a boat (yea, he's done all that in the last few weeks) with no harm done.  But sometimes something bad does happen.

    Whatever you decide to do, I'm sure there's a way to make it work for you.  But it would totally suck to be dealing with this, and I'm sorry it happened to you.
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    :: hugs Pirata ::
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    It def sucks, and I am sure everything will work out just fine. But you can't get mad at him. I highly doubt he wanted to break his heel and have to walk around in crutches and a cast for the next 8 weeks. I would just take it for what it is and go with the flow.
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    You can still dance - you can be his crutch!  :) 

    Hopefully it'll heal quickly, and they'll have some creative ideas for the wedding day.  Just talk to the docs about it.  They're human too. 

    The bill, though, that totally sucks.  Ouch.
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    You can still dance around him and it will be adorable.  I'm so sorry for you though.

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    Oh boo!  That sucks Pirata.  I hope that the specialist has good news for you guys.

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    Did you ever see the Saved by the Bell where Lisa sprained her ankle before the big dance off at The Max?!  You can do The Sprain with your new hubby :)

    In all seriousness, I'm so sorry this happened :(  I understand being frustrated, just try not to take it out on him, he's probably feeling guilty all by himself.  Just think about being married and all the fun you'll have in spite of this accident.
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    Aw that definitely sucks!  And especially about the bill...  How far into the healing is your wedding?  And it's a minor fracture?  It's hard to say what the dr's will choose, cast or boot, depending on what it looks like.  A heel is hard to break!  (I'm an x-ray tech, btw lol) Towards the end some people can hobble around in a boot.  He should follow everything they say to speed up the process (some people ignore what dr's say like take off splints, etc). 

    Though this hinders your plans some, I think when you guys look at your pictures years down the road, you will laugh at it!  It will be a funny story!  I also think (even though it's not a funny thing), it may put some humor into the ceremony lol.
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    xray--well they said straight fracture so no pins, surgery etc.  Also he has little pain and not much swelling that we can tell now that the splint is on.  So once the doc looks tomorrow, I guess he'll decide boot or plastic cast.   :(  I know I'm being a big 'ol baby, but I have had no WR meltdowns at all, and I feel 100% entitled to cry about this. It just SUCKS.
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    As long as you are crying here and not around him.  Think of it as something unique for your wedding and work around it.  Good luck.
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    Holy crap, that is terrible.  And also, what Dani said.  You will still be beautiful, he will still be smokin', and the day will still be about the same thing it has always been -- you lovin each other long tiiiime. :) Chin up darlin!
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    Awww, Pirata, that sucks.  I get why you're frustrated.

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    That sucks bigtime, Pirata. Most especially about the insurance.
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    I am so sorry!! I can't imagine.
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    Pirata I just came across this article and it made me think of your situation here... http://finance.yahoo.com/news/One-Way-to-Lower-a-Doctors-nytimes-744439581.html?x=0&.v=1

    Good luck!! I'll pray for good news from the doctor tomorrow!

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    ak--lol my dad basically said the same thing--that when the bills come in, start making calls. Be diplomatic, explain the insurance issue. Say we picked the hospital because of their good reputation, and because I'd just had a great experience there with my own foot doctor and surgery. And that if the bill was lowered, we may be able to make more expidited payments. Maybe they'll lower it. He said it's definitely worth a try and I agree.
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    Pirata, we negotiated some bills when my H broke his knees even though he did have insurance!  So it's definitely worth a shot!
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    dude.  DUDE!
     that SUCKS
    I'm sorry.
    the wedding will be fine.  You will still have fun.
    Get him a black cast and spraypaint his crutches.
    :(

    But that really sucks about the hospital bill.

    I'd keep the wedding date and postpone the honeymoon.
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