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I hate my job, best way to quit amicably?

So, I have a job interview tomorrow for a new job, actually there are two that I am interviewing for with the same company.  The HR lady was talking about scheduling and pay on the phone yesterday, and liked that I had 4+ years of experience, so it sounds promising (ya, I know, don't count my eggs before they've hatched, hope I'm not jumping the gun).

I very much dislike the job I have now.  The supervisor is rather condescending, the coworkers (save a few) are very gossipy and condescending as well.  There's a bunch of other things that seem small, but hav all added up over time to make it miserable.

If I get one of these jobs, any advice on how to quit amicably?  I don't really want to burn any bridges permanently.  Obviously, sending the boss a video of "You can take this job and shove it" isn't the best option, tempting as it is.  Should I explain in my resignation letter why I'm leaving, at least the reasons that pertain to her house?  Or just say "I have accepted a different job, my last day will be X, thank you."?  I am mildly concerned that she'll be so pissed that she'll just fire me immediately after she gets the letter, so vacation time won't have to be paid out.

Second question, which job would you take:
A) M-F 7am to 3pm.  Same pay rate as now, working in one group home.  No weekends.
B) M-F variable hours, mostly 1pm to 9pm.  $2-3 more than I get currently.  Part of a floater team, so I could be in any of 40ish houses to cover other staff absences.  Also no weekends.

The extra pay would be nice, but it would be really nice to be on roughly the same hours as FI.  I could probably get out of the floater position at some point, though.

Oh, and this company has an employee recognition program.  They send one "exceptional" employee ever year to Paris for a week, all expenses paid, regular salary for the week, and $100/day spending money.  I'll be recieving that, thank you very much!  Cool

Re: I hate my job, best way to quit amicably?

  • NebbNebb member
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    I just wouldnt go into detail in the resignation, just explain that you have decided to move on and keep any negativity out of it. I think #1 sounds better.
  • Does your current employer do exit interviews?  That would be a way for you to offer feedback on why you are leaving.  Otherwise, if it were me, I would probably keep quiet about it.

    As for your choices, I think there is a lot of benefit to working days and like you said, it will allow you more time with your FI.  If it was me, I'd go with the lower paying job.
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  • Nice perk!  I'd pick job A because I like to be on about the same schedule as my husband. 

    This is what I sent when I quit my last job.  The recruiter who helped me land my new job sent me a template and I adapted it to my job (note that most of it is BS, i hated that place and couldn't wait to get the eff out):

    John,

    I want to thank you for all that you have done for me here at ****. It's been a pleasure working with you and being a part of the *** group.  I appreciate the opportunity to be a part of your team, and I am grateful for the knowledge and experience that you have helped me to gain.

    I have decided to tender my resignation and pursue an opportunity outside the firm. My last date of employment will be July 16th. This decision has nothing to do with the exceptional opportunity you have provided me here. You and the company have been more than fair with me, and I genuinely appreciate all of your support.

    I wish you and the rest of the group continued success, and I want to thank you for allowing me to be a part of your team. I will work diligently to tie up loose ends before my last day, and I will make sure any on-going projects are properly transitioned.  Please feel free to contact me at any time if I can be of further assistance in helping with a smooth transition.  I look forward to working with you again in the future as a *** alumnus.

    Regards,

     

    Heels

     

    cc:  Kim, Human Resources


  • I wouldn't tell your direct boss that you're wanting to leave partially because of her if you don't want to burn bridges. I would just say that You've decided to move on in your career with a different company, your last day will be X, and it's been a pleasure.

    If you feel really strongly that she's pretty terrible you could talk to HR or her direct superior if she has one.

    And I would take the set hours. The extra money is tempting, but I know after a month I would wish I had taken the set hours so I could see FI more.
  • Your resignation letter should be very non-commitable -- you've accepted another position, your last day, thanks for the opportunity to learn and work with them (whether true or not). Don't put anything negative in writing!

    If you have an exit interview and there's something constructive you can say that might help in the way they operate moving forward, you can say it then if you want. But if the job just sucks or the boss just isn't good, it's not really worth it to go into it at that point.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_hate-job-way-quit-amicably?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:99b1e643-bd03-4902-8bdf-901925476771Post:f1a1cf4c-75d1-4a31-b3cc-21696eef3592">Re: I hate my job, best way to quit amicably?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I just wouldnt go into detail in the resignation, just explain that you have decided to move on and keep any negativity out of it.<strong> </strong>I think #1 sounds better.
    Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]
    Ditto.  I would love it if FI and I had similar schedules.  Our schedules are so different that we barely see each other.  
  • "Thank you very much for the opportunity to work at X place. I have learned a lot during my time here and have definitely learned because of it. blah blah blah."

    Puff it up a bit and then say that you will be leaving the company on x date.

    "Again, thank you for allowing me to work at X establishment. I appreciate everything you and X company have done for me during my time here".

    Never say where you are going or why. It's none of their business.

  • Dear Boss,

    It is with my regrets that I am informing you I will be leaving Company ABC due to another professional opportunity. My last day of employment will be July 1, 2010.

    Over my four years with the company, I have developed a lot of skills I will use in the future, and am grateful for it... Blah, blah, blah.

    Hell, when I finally leave this place, I'll probably put, "I have really enjoyed my time here," although that's a lie.

    Unless something happened that they might get sued over by someone else, or that they REALLY could improve (and would, if you mentioned it), I would just be vague.

    And I'd take the first option, but I really enjoy having weekends off and working similar hours to FI. If your FI works weekends, then take the second.
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  • mocha beansmocha beans member
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    edited April 2010

    That's perfect Heels and everyone, thanks!

    I don't know about exit interviews, I guess I'll find out.  She's not gonna be happy.  One other coworker is putting her notice in, if she hasn't already, with similar reasons.  We're on a hiring freeze right now, so getting new people in to cover our hours isn't gonna be fun.

  • I agree with Nebb. Keep it short and sweet. If possible, I'd give them as much notice as possible just to keep it on the amicable side.

    #1 sounds better; you seem to like the hours and a group home would afford you the chance to build relationships better than being a floater, I would think.

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_hate-job-way-quit-amicably?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:99b1e643-bd03-4902-8bdf-901925476771Post:12051fc3-3957-4818-a320-3fc474b4717a">Re: I hate my job, best way to quit amicably?</a>:
    [QUOTE]That's perfect Heels and everyone, thanks! I don't know about exit interviews, I guess I'll find out.  She's not gonna be happy.  One other coworker is putting her notice in, if she hasn't already, with similar reasons.  We're on a hiring freeze right now, so getting new people in to cover our hours isn't gonna be fun.
    Posted by mocha beans[/QUOTE]

    Meh.  Oh well.  Gotta look out for #1.  If you don't, no one else will.  Not that I have to tell you, because you obviously are getting out of there and pursuing something better. 
  • BTW, good luck! It sounds like this company cares about their employees, so I really hope you get the job!
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  • Yeah, she's a pretty miserable supervisor.  It's been brought to the attention of higher ups, but nothing has really been done to change anything, it's on someone's to do list somewhere in the beaureacratic chain.  Turnover is pretty high.  Three of us were hired at the same time; there's normally 6-7 staff, and now two of us are quitting.  It's also looking like I'd be working most weekends all summer, because the higher seniority staff have put in to take all the weekends off.

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_hate-job-way-quit-amicably?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:99b1e643-bd03-4902-8bdf-901925476771Post:c6f61eb1-b3ba-4107-974d-d66faa5bf257">Re: I hate my job, best way to quit amicably?</a>:
    [QUOTE]BTW, good luck! It sounds like this company cares about their employees, so I really hope you get the job!
    Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

    Me too Mery, me too!  I was shocked when they said that one their website.  I mean, what company does that these days?!
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