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Normally I send a gift anyway, but not in this case.  It sounds like you were invited for a gift grab, and she hasn't arranged her registry in a way that makes it easy for guests to buy nice, but low-priced gifts.  I would just skip.  Oh, and I would go ahead and get the wedding gift before the more reasonably priced stuff gets cleaned out.  Just saying.

lyndausvi

I would not go as far as to say your were invited to be gift-grabby.  A lot of families include cousins or the SO of a male cousin as part of their standard list. If the shower is from her FI's side, it could explain why she was invited.

Anyway, when I'm not attending a shower I decide to send a gift on a case-by-case basis.   For example, if I'm close to one half of the couple, then I would. It doesn't even sound like you are even close to the cousin.   Add that the registry, I would say NO I would not send a gift.

MrsGandthebeag

If I was close to the person I would still send a gift if I couldn't attend the shower.  In this case I probably wouldn't send one.  

jessicabessica

I generally send a gift if I am invited but cannot attend the shower, but it's not necessary.  When I see those kinds of prices on a registry with nothing lower priced, I pick out a different gift.  You could do that, or even just send a card if you want to wish her well.