Dislike BF's husband! WTD???

Ric1026

I dislike my best friend's husband and so does my fiance`. We really don't want him to come to our reception, but I want my BF to be my Matron of Honor and I don't know what to do!

Any ideas?

salt78

Too bad so sad. You have to invite him. 

brimcleod

If they're married, there's not much you can do, unfortunately.

FutureMrsTR

:::points to post below:::

Your wedding isn't the time or place for you to be parading your judgements about someone else's SO all over the place.  You really shouldn't ever be doing that.  They're a social unit, you have to invite him too.  You won't even notice him the day of.

JennD88

Backstory? Has he done something horrible, or do you just dislike him in general?

Either way, married couples should be treated as social units. You invite them both; you can't pick and choose. I would not attend a wedding if my BF didn't invite my husband, just sayin.

EmmaBride2B

You invite him. You don't and you're making your friend choose between her friend and her husband, don't do that.

Koopa17

You will be too busy to be bothered by him, I'm sure.  Just suck it up and invite him.  You'll ruin your friendship immediately if you don't.

Also, JennD is way too cute. 

btrflykate1230

I second the JennD is wicked cute.

They're a unit. You must invite both of them together.

kimheartsscott

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[QUOTE] Also, JennD is way too cute. 
Posted by Koopa17[/QUOTE]

Right?  It makes me hate her for stupid girly reasons.

Also, OP, you have to invite him.  As her best friend, I think you should be willing to put aside whatever differences you have to see her happy, even if it means inviting someone you don't like.

Ric1026

Thanks,

That's what I figured, I was just hoping...

Backstory? Yes to both!

Cute Pic btw!

MyNameIsNot

They're a package deal.  If you make her choose between her husband and you, she's going to choose her husband and it's going to screw up your friendship.  

scoetto

You won't have time to realize he's even there. Suck it up & invite him.

andyandhillary

In addition to what PPs have said, don't you realize what a huge issue that would become between your BM an yourself?  If you demonstrated how much you disliked her husband I'm pretty sure she would choose him over you. 

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]Thanks, That's what I figured, I was just hoping... Backstory? Yes to both! Cute Pic btw! =)
Posted by Ric1026[/QUOTE]

So what horrible thing did he do?

tracy_k

I'm just going to take a moment and thank all that is good and holy that my best friend FINALLY broke up with her jackassabusivemoron of a boyfriend last year, and that (in addition to just being elated that she is free of him) I didn't have to face this issue at my wedding.

OP, I am sorry you have to deal with it, but PPs are right, it will mess up your relationship with your friend too much to be worth it.

louisvillebride21

Hmm...she deleted a post in response to LCs question.

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]Hmm...she deleted a post in response to LCs question.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

Huh, I didn't notice. So did she ever say what horrible thing the guy did?

louisvillebride21

No, she said that she couldn't even talk about it, it stressed her out even more than she already is.Let's put it this way, I could have pressed charges....

laurenclaire1386

Hrm. Well now I'm really curious.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]<strong>I'm just going to take a moment and thank all that is good and holy that my best friend FINALLY broke up with her jackassabusivemoron of a boyfriend last year, and that (in addition to just being elated that she is free of him) I didn't have to face this issue at my wedding.</strong> OP, I am sorry you have to deal with it, but PPs are right, it will mess up your relationship with your friend too much to be worth it.
Posted by tracy_k[/QUOTE]

Same here, except it ended with one of my BMs having a restraining order against her now-ex BF. I was always going to invite him to the wedding, but now I'm excited that I don't have to. I mentioned that in jest to her once and she was shocked I was going to invite him at all. I said, "Well duh, he was your BF at the time."

tracy_k

MsMeryMac, my friend almost had a restraining order put on thisbastard a few months ago. UGH. HATE.

I honestly don't think I could have invited him if they'd stayed together, even though I know that's 1000 shades and flavors of wrong.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Tracy, I'm glad she was able to leave him! For her sake and yours!

brookelynpaisley

Uh, sorry sista. They're a social unit, not to be separated. Time to put on the big girl panties and suck it up.

luckyme502

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[QUOTE]:::points to post below::: Your wedding isn't the time or place for you to be parading your judgements about someone else's SO all over the place.  You really shouldn't ever be doing that.  They're a social unit, you have to invite him too.  You won't even notice him the day of.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]


This.