Although not engaged (but in a serious relationship leading towards that direction) my step-mother (of 10 years) continuously asks if she'll be included in dress shopping when the day does finally arrive. I'm cordial with my step-mother; we don't have a true mother-daughter relationship. We don't go out of our way to make plans and get together, call each other and catch up, and she (nor my father) has made a true effort to build a relationship with their future son-in-law. Needless to say, over the past few years as I've been maturing and developing into my own person, we've been growing further apart. She offers unwarranted opinions and advice on my relationship and how I'm go about things (i.e - my bf's job, that we're moving in together before getting engaged, etc.).Often, it comes out condescending and I find it to be hurtful. She has an opinion about EVERYTHING. I feel like she throws the "mom" card out when it's convenient for her, and I don't think she has a right. Truthfully, I can't completely relax and be myself around her in fear of what she'll say about me behind my back (she talks poorly about my brother and sister-in-law). Getting to the point, I'm gauging that she wants to be included in the wedding planning for bragging rights, not because she truly cares. I don't want to show up for a bridal appointment with an entourage like you see on SYTTD. I want my mother, future mother in law, and maid of honor there, but am fearful that I am going to alienate my father's side of the family by not including my step-mom. Although my mom and step-mom can co-exist in the same room and be friendly with one another, it would make a for a "walking on eggshells" atmosphere. I'm not trying to put the cart before the horse here, but rather mentally prepping and mapping out a plan of action for when the time finally comes so I'm not not caught with my tail between by legs. What do you recommend?Thanks for your help