To Tweet or Not to Tweet

norameetsnick

We came across a couple of moments last weekend where we questioned whether or not to tweet about something wedding related.
1) My fiance finished the cocktail recipe book that is part of the favors
2) We received vintage postcards to use as our guest book. Some were exceptionally interesting, including one postmarked 1906 with a message scrawled on the front, "Saturday. Harry has typhoid fever. Will be home tomorrow."

I said tweeting about it was the equivalent of talking about the wedding in a roomful of people. He disagreed, pointing out his 500+ followers aren't all friends so don't assume they are invited.

What do you all think? Is tweeting about wedding prep inappropriate?

divinemsbee

To me, this is a don't. 

I would love to gush all over Facebook about how awesome our invitations look and post pics (I'm assuming that you'd be posting pictures of these things), or post about DIY stuff, but it's not a good idea. Some people may see it and think it's cool, but anyone who lies within that range of not a close friend thats coming to the wedding but not a complete stranger might get confused as to why you're sharing it. Sure, people shouldn't assume invitations, but I also think rubbing it in people's faces is a bit tacky. Maybe start a blog for your wedding stuff? That way you can share it with the people you  give the address to; or if you already have a blog with a following, I think putting it on there would be okay. Or share it on the DIY boards here, people love to see those things. To me, I follow blogs of people I might know, and also those I don't know that well, but on Facebook and Twitter, they are either business contacts or, to some degree, friends, acquaintances, and family. 

Your guestbook idea sounds really cool, how are you putting that together? 

Also, love your SN. 

norameetsnick

Thanks! My thinking was in the same direction. I think I focused on the social part of social media, while he focused on the media side. To me, it would be the same as chatting about wedding preparations in a roomful of people who weren't invited.

As for the guest book, it's not 100% set yet. We will either have a vintage mailbox or a train case to use as a box. The postcards and pens will be out and guests can choose which to use. Our invitations were in the style of an old-school travel guide book to Washington, DC, so this will continue that theme.

DisneyAsh

I wouldn't, but I only tweet for business. I haven't and I don't plan to FB any of our plans. We're having a super intimate wedding and most people aren't invited.

taraowens1983

I think it's fine! I feel like we need to throw out everything we learned about wedding etiquette from a child because this is a VERY different world we live in today.

I am personally not a tweeter but I don't see anything wrong with it. Do what makes you happy!

hoffse

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_to-tweet-or-not-to-tweet?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9a526e7b-d9fd-4c1f-b7a6-2ced7efe3c54Post:cc71492e-74da-4c4c-80e6-9daa9007a3eb">Re: To Tweet or Not to Tweet</a>:
[QUOTE]I think it's fine! I feel like we need to throw out everything we learned about wedding etiquette from a child because this is a VERY different world we live in today. I am personally not a tweeter but I don't see anything wrong with it. Do what makes you happy! :)
Posted by taraowens1983[/QUOTE]

<div>Just. No.  </div><div>
</div><div>OP, don't tweet about it - it might hurt people's feelings at worst.  At best, it will make them roll their eyes.  I mean, I'm excited about my wedding and my very close friends' weddings - but I don't care about every person I know on facebook getting married, KWIM?  I don't have twitter because I think it would be obnoxious to get constant updates all the time - but I do have facebook, and I still get annoyed with the countdowns, etc. on my newsfeed.  I feel like it's fine to post some pics, and you can gush to your girlfriends/mom/aunts/cousins/etc - but gushing on a public forum is just asking for drama to happen IMO.</div>

norameetsnick

In Response to Re:To Tweet or Not to Tweet:[QUOTE]I don't get the point of twitter, so I say never tweet no matter what Posted by snippet17[/QUOTE]

This is what happens when you marry a selfproclaimed computer geek. :
Thanks, all. This gives me enough to veto his wedding tweets. I said I'd ask around, and he agreed to follow the consensus.