Addressing invite/escort cards for engaged couple?

Mark&Steph

We are inviting a couple who is getting married 2 weeks prior to our wedding. I plan to address their invite to "HerFirst HerLast" and "HisFirst HisLast", since invites will go out well before their wedding.

Question: for escort cards, should I make them consistent with the invites (maiden name) or put hers in her future name (only in the event that she changes it, obviously)?

calliopeia2013

You can probably just call and say "Hey Jane, do you have a preference for what name goes on our escort cards?  Are you changing your name?" Or whatever.  Don't leave her escort card in her maiden name just to match the invites you sent- use her name at the the time of the invites, and her name at the time of the wedding, for each, respectively.  They don't have to match. 

2010Bride2be

We had this situation as 3 other couples that we're friends with got married around the same time we did. For STD's and invites, they were addressed to fi & my maiden name.

When their weddings came up, escort cards and seating charts were done as Mr. & Mrs...

jessicabessica

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[QUOTE]You can probably just call and say "Hey Jane, do you have a preference for what name goes on our escort cards?  Are you changing your name?" Or whatever.  Don't leave her escort card in her maiden name just to match the invites you sent- use her name at the the time of the invites, and her name at the time of the wedding, for each, respectively.  They don't have to match.  :)
Posted by calliopeia2013[/QUOTE]

I agree with this.  Can't go wrong with asking her. 

tenofcups4me

For the escort cards, I'd use whatever name she plans to use after she's married. If you know that she's keeping her name or taking his, no need to ask anything. If you're not sure, you can check what she's doing.

Mark&Steph

Thanks all. That sounds simple enough. I'm just not sure when we'll actually be ordering/making escort cards, and not sure if they're taking a 10-day honeymoon between the weddings, so I'll try and find out from her a few weeks in advance.

toothpastechica

I would think she would know if she was changing her name or not long before the wedding...most people have that one decided fairly early (although not everyone), there is some paperwork involved so its highly unlikely you couldnt get an answer from her a couple months before.

Beverly8

My girlfriend addressed the invitations to her wedding a bit more casually. She had addressed ours as future mr & mrs Ryan and Beverly last name. I didn't mind this so much, I thought it was a cute idea but some people may not like this but as I said I didn't mind. So this may be an idea for you, but it really doesn't matter if the two names on the invitations don't match, just have their place cards done with the married name.