Tuesday!

Stackeye210

Happy Tuesday Eeereyone!  I hope all is well.  Jocelyn has an Easter party at school today and when I was putting candy in eggs for her class she said, "So mom, what is this Easter egg thing again?  I just don't remember from before".  lol. 

louisvillebride21

Hiya!

I'm trying to find information on a rental house...help? I googled it and clicked on the first listing. I emailed that person and he told me to go to a website to find the listing agent. I go there and type in the MLS and it doesn't show up. Thing is, it's listed for sale on line, but there's a for rent sign in the yard....

Stackeye210

That's annoying.  Finding rental houses is sooooo difficult.  There is no real dedicated site to them like apartments, so you have to search a million different places to find options. 

louisvillebride21

I think I figured it out. I was looking under rentals, but because it's officially listed as sale, i had to go to that part. Interesting, it doesn't look like there is a stove or refrigerator. This might be a short term rental until they sell it, which would not be good for us. It's 3 min from the baby!!!  Honestly, H just wants a house.

I had a little break down last night. The day before, we were looking at houses and apartments and I just told him we couldn't afford any more than we have since the job situation is so iffy. He just wants to be where all of his friends are I felt so bad that I cried and then I gave him all that money I was saving for our trip to spend on his car parts for fun. He didn't take it and now I've blown the surprise. I'm just trying to make him happy and I don't know how right now

mixtapehearts

Ugh. Morning.

I have an exam today recording 3 songs in the studio with my choir in school. I hate recording. I'm still sick. I'm so scared of throwing up in the booth.

... So that's my day.

specialk84

Good morning!  I'm contemplating slapping my school's IT department.  I was told I could register online at 7 this morning, but the website kept crashing because of all the traffic.  The classes fill up fast, and I only have a few quarters left, so I need specific classes. 

Finally, I managed to get in and snag the last spot in one of my required classes.

louisvillebride21

Yeah, try not to do that, Mix. That would be...icky.

Stackeye210

I'm sorry LVB.  I totally know what you're going through.  Mr Stack's thing right now is why does it seem so effortless for some people to obtain these great goals and get these big promotions and he's working his a$$ off and all he gets is more work?  He's so frustrated right now and he totally sounds like MrLVB.  He just wants to feel settled, and a little bit like he has made it in the world.  It's so hard to tell them that it'll come and to be patient, because deep down you know you deserve these things too.  You know what I mean? 

It sounds like your H has so much going for him and is just losing site of the big picture.  I always tell Mr Stack that we're in the marathon, not the sprint.  Sure it's taking us a little longer to obtain some things but when we do we're going to keep on going because the steps up will come with more ease.  While others may have sprinted and (busted early so to speak), they'll be stuck where they are for a while.  And you guys will have put yourself in a better position. 

Stackeye210

Feel better mixtape.  Throw up in small spaces and people will judge you.  just sayin 

specialk84

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tuesday-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9b1b01cc-8c84-4d7e-a895-0a0eece7e0c3Post:cb87c7b4-3c2d-458c-b02c-9ec58ff2f639">Re: Tuesday!</a>:
[QUOTE]Ugh. Morning. I have an exam today recording 3 songs in the studio with my choir in school. I hate recording. I'm still sick. I'm so scared of throwing up in the booth. ... So that's my day.
Posted by mixtapehearts[/QUOTE]

<div>Good luck on both the exam and not throwing up.</div>

louisvillebride21

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tuesday-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9b1b01cc-8c84-4d7e-a895-0a0eece7e0c3Post:ebbb9cfa-4b85-4680-8b59-977688cd0abc">Re: Tuesday!</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm sorry LVB.  I totally know what you're going through.  Mr Stack's thing right now is why does it seem so effortless for some people to obtain these great goals and get these big promotions and he's working his a$$ off and all he gets is more work?  He's so frustrated right now and he totally sounds like MrLVB.  He just wants to feel settled, and a little bit like he has made it in the world.  It's so hard to tell them that it'll come and to be patient, because deep down you know you deserve these things too.  You know what I mean?  It sounds like your H has so much going for him and is just losing site of the big picture.  I always tell Mr Stack that we're in the marathon, not the sprint.  Sure it's taking us a little longer to obtain some things but when we do we're going to keep on going because the steps up will come with more ease.  While others may have sprinted and (busted early so to speak), they'll be stuck where they are for a while.  And you guys will have put yourself in a better position. 
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]

I know, and that's exactly how I feel. I mean, H is (most likely) about to be promoted to manager. Which is a GREAT thing. But he'll be gettign laid off in a few months. It's like he was on this great path and finally is getting what he deserved, but they're shutting the company down. They just need a manager in the mean time because everyone else has already been transferred to other locations. Another part of it is that he's still in school. He royally screwed up when he went after high school and now we're both 'paying' for it. If he already had his degree and a job, we'd be doing SO GOOD right now. Personally, I'm fine, I'm happy. We go on trips, we have nice clothes, we eat out all the time, we have our hobbies. We just don't have a house and baby and baby hauler SUV. We just spend our money on things that make us happy for the right now because it's impossible to have a house and all that right now.  It's like he wants everything. He doesn't want to give up all we do right now (neither do I), but he wants everything else on top of it. And I KNOW it's not all on me, but I'm working as hard as I can to give him everything he wants. But I just can't do it all on my own and that kills me. And then to top it off, you and I are very similar in that we feel the man is the head of the household. Well, not really right now. I make more than double than him, I have my degree, I'm set. But I'm waiting for him to get all his shiit together so I don't have so much on me and we can go back to the roles that we're comfortable with.

Stackeye210

I bet you kind of finding your dream job is subconsciously bothering him a bit.  It probably makes him feel like his man card took a hit.  That's to no fault of you, but it does put fire under his a$$ to want to finish up school and get going in his career so he can play a little catch up.  The problem is, there isn't much you can do to hurry school along.  I'm sure he isn't trying to make it a competition, but some guys just come by that naturally. 

louisvillebride21

It would have to be subconsciously. It's not that he doesn't want me to have my dream job, because he's all about the money. He just wants us BOTH to be there so we're making awesome money and can have awesome things.

Stackeye210

My husband is such a stereotype of a boy! 

So he borrowed this big mug to have his soup in at work and brought the cup home to be washed and keeps forgetting to take it back to work b/c it belongs to this lady.  Last night he makes this big deal about please dont let him forget this mug. 

This is the phone call I just had:

T - "oh man you let me forget that cup again"

Me - "Huh?  How did you forget the cup, I put half your lunch inside of it so you would just throw the whole thing in your bag and there was no possible way you could forget the cup"

T - "Oh, that's why you did that?  I didn't even realize that was the cup, I just thought you were being weird"

Me - "You have got to be kidding?"  I laughed so hard at him.....SO HARD. 

Attention FAIL.

sarabellam

Morning, everyone. Mixtape, I'll ditto vomit + small spaces = very bad combination. Specialk, I hope the IT department gets theirshit together and you can register. LVB, sorry your surprise is blown. Stacks, it really sucks wanting it all and wanting it RIGHT NOW, and realizing you can't. I experience it on the regular when I compare my life with my siblings' lives (for example, my sister just took her daughter to London for her 8th birthday, my brother just bought a Porsche with cash).

To complete my Debbie Downer morning, Dh found out yesterday that his dad's cancer is back, and it doesn't look good. We are sad pandas all around here.

Stackeye210

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[QUOTE]It would have to be subconsciously. It's not that he doesn't want me to have my dream job, because he's all about the money. He just wants us BOTH to be there so we're making awesome money and can have awesome things.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]


Exactly - you guys have the same goals, it's just the level of patience you each can tolerate in getting there.  I feel like I have more patience than T because I grew up with not much, so I feel great right now.  Of course I know we can do more, but I can see the bigger picture.  Where T grew up in a more upper class setting and this isn't really his cup of tea so I think he wants to skip this part.  He doesn't realize the part where his dad worked really hard making nothing to get to where he is today. 

Stackeye210

Oh Sara I'm so sorry about your FIL.   

louisvillebride21

That's EXACTLY us. Exactly.

I'm sorry, Sara

Snippylynn

Soooo... Tuesday! YAY!  I'm getting annoyed with some of the stuff around here.  I need access to a particular system in order to, ya know... DO MY JOB but they keep saying I need it to go through the 'proper channels'.  Well, my boss is asking your boss who is telling you no.  Why?

RAR. 

thank goodness it's gorgeous and I'm leaving early today. Woot!

And, if there's anyone around here who knows about being patient and waiting for your success to come to you, it's me.  All you can do, is continue to look for the opportunities that are waiting for you, but in the meantime realize that what you have is GOOD. or at least safe.  Be content but energized, and happy in your place.   I believe that those who do good things WILL be rewarded eventually.  The greater the patience, the greater the pay off.  Look wider, be open to more and you might be given a chance you never saw coming.

Stackeye210

So True Snippy!  So true!!!  I believe every last word of that!  

Rosie109

I am so sorry sara
Adorable story about lilttle stacks!

I am just positively pooped. My hair is a frizz ball and I am not positive that I actually match today.

I accidentally locked my girl cat in the basement last night, and I felt terrible this morning. The kitten threw up last night as well, I think it was because I kicked him out of our bedroom and he was lonely without his big sister to molest and torture.

Stackeye210

DING DONG THE WITCH IS GONE!!! 

The job T got and then turned down....well in a perfect world he was hoping it'd go to this lady that sits by him b/c he just doesn't care for her and would like to not have to deal with her.  She got his sloppy seconds and will now be moving to PA.  He's happy. 

baystateapple

Good morning!

Aww, LVB, I'm sorry.  H gets that way sometimes too, since he moved states to be with me.  I know he gets frustrated that we can't be closer to all of his friends.  When we first entertained the idea of one of us moving, I had a steady job with insurance, and he didn't.  It made more sense for him to move to CT.  I know sometimes it bothers him.  It's always tough. 

Snippy is wise.  Good words to live by.

I remembered my pills today, so I'm a little loopy.  Today is the "slow day" of Easter week -- everyone is going to the Cathedral for a special Mass, except for me, so it will be quiet and I can get lots of work done.  And after today, I'm halfway done with the work week!

FutureMrsFezz

Morning!

Sorry about your FIL, Sara.
Mixy-- Feel better!
Snip-- You're wise. 

Snippylynn

Stacks, would you mind rehashing why he turned down the PA job?  I think I missed it.

Stackeye210

Basically the offer was well below what we were hoping for.  They were only going to offer him a 6% raise b/c they were saying it was a lateral move, which it isn't but that's what HR was saying when they talked numbers.  So he turned it down b/c I'd have to find a job out there then too which would just be a hassle and if we're going to move we really want it to be with me being a SAHM. 

He was really freaked out that he ruined his chances to work with the guys out there though because he really loves them all and they actually told him they were posting a supervisor position some time in the near future that they want him to apply for.  So maybe it'll all happen in the future, but this position just wasn't the right one for us.

The lady who did get the position is actually from PA and already owns a house there, plus her daughter is starting at UofPitt this coming year so the move for her really makes a lot of sense.  She had only moved to Columbus with her late husband b/c he had a job transfer, so not much reason for her to stay now.   

crfische

GOOD MORNING GUYTHS!! Today is SUPPOSED to be week 2 of ladies league for golf, but OH YEAH, we're supposed to get THREE MORE INCHES OF SNOW TODAY.

I'll be in the bar with the girls instead. Yay/Boo.

Sounds a little rough all up in here today, ladies! IT WILL ALL BE OK, I PROMISE.

waltzingmatilda13

Mornin!

I totally read the the thread title as Thursday and got all excited for half a second until I realized it is in fact only Tuesday.

Things will get better LVB. My H is going through the same thing and frantically looking for a job because he feels his company is going to crash soon. Not a good place to be. He basically had a job in his hands, but then they told him the pay. It was a good bit less than he makes now. Both of us are also frustrated because we can't even imagine a time when we will be able to buy a house. It sucks.

Mixtape, feel better!
Sara, T&Ps to your family.

sarabellam

Thanks, guys. I'm a little numb right now, which may be for the better.

SnippyAmoro, very wise words indeed. Stacks, tee-hee at "sloppy seconds." Baystate, I hear you on the business of this week. I'm supposed to sing at services Thursday night (have to miss because I cannot miss class), Friday noon (had to take a day off for that one), the Vigil Saturday night, and Sunday morning. I passed on the sunrise service (which would have meant me getting my daughters and myself up at 4:15, yeah, not happening).

Oh, and I'm a bit miffed at my daughter's teacher. They have their yearly high-stakes testing this week. Yesterday was the reading section, my 12 year old's strong suit. She finished with ample time left, so she took a nap. Apparently the teacher interrogated her about whether she got a good night's sleep (she had 9 hours) and had a good breakfast (she had an apple spread with peanut butter and a double serving of oatmeal). No, I didn't let my daughter stay up until all hours of the night and slap a Pop-Tart in her hand.

adamar15

Good morning!

Mix, I feel you on the nausea-front.  That was me yesterday, but luckily I was at home.  Feel better!

I'm still trying to get caught up at work from being out, but I just don't feel like doing anything. 

baystateapple

Oh, Sara.  I am so, so sorry.  *HUGS* to both you and Mr. Bellam.