How far would you go to accomodate?

malyandmaribel

I sent my invitations out 4 months prior to the wedding. One of my guests is now complaining that she can't find a flight (we're now only a few weeks away from the wedding). Could this person not have looked sooner? I went online and did the online research for her and found her a deal. It was nowhere near the prices she was telling me.

Now she is asking me to go pick her up at the airport the day before the wedding. She's already going to be staying at my apartment the entire weekend so she won't have to pay for a hotel. Our families are having a get together the day before so they can get to know each other. This guest is asking to come even though she's not family. How far am I supposed to accomodate? I understand she's making a trip (really, only a 45 minute flight compared to my family who is traveling 1000s of miles) for my wedding. I don't know if I can handle entertaining a guest that weekend. Am I being selfish? What should I do?

lynds230

Depending on how far the airport is, I would try to see if there is an easy/affordable way for her to get to you herself. Or, are there other people who will be flying in that she could possibly coordinate a ride with? If not, then maybe a friend or family member of yours could help you out by going to get her from the airport?

As for the family party thing, I would try to put the ball in her court for what she does during the weekend stay -- she is a guest at your wedding, not a houseguest that you are obligated to entertain 24/7 for the entire weekend. It is different than a girlfriends' weekend together, and if she's a friend, I'm sure she will understand that! However, if she is the type of person that would be really upset or offended by this, heck, tell her she can tag along to the family thing...maybe it will be nice that she gets to meet some people before the wedding, even. Just because she is there doesn't mean you have to be attached at the hip with her the entire party, you know? Good luck!

mica178

are you looking to vent, or are you looking for solutions.

if the former: sorry that your guest put you in a sucky position.  there's always that one guest.  :S

otherwise, tell her very nicely that you're going to be very busy with last-minute wedding stuff and recommend a shuttle service (southern california has tons of shuttle services with heavy discounts if you book ahead online -- primetime shuttle is probably the cheapest).  hopefully she'll get the picture and realize how much you're already doing to accommodate her.

if the family dinner is going to be large, it might be okay to bring her along, but otherwise, let her know that it's family-only and that she's going to have to entertain herself that night.