What's the etiquette when one of your bridemaid's ettiquette has seemingly flown out the window? One of my bridesmaids drunkenly texted me last week asking why I didn't make her my maid of honor. When I told her that was not a conversation I was willing to have via text, she later texted that she "didn't think she should be a bridesmaid, but would think about it and we could talking about it." I told her it was her decision and left it at that several days ago.
Obviously it's something that I can't get off my mind. This is someone that I've known since middle schoool (so almost 15 years now), honestly if anyone was going to cause drama during wedding-planning/possibly even during the wedding, my guess would have been her.
I thought that maybe she'd finally grown up and stopped causing drama, but I guess giving her that benefit of the doubt was not a good idea. I don't think I'm the only one that would think at this point that this person should not be in my wedding party, probably should not even get invited (only STDs have been sent out at this point).
Tactful ideas how to let her know or should tact pretty much be thrown out the window at this point?