RSVP and Registry Question

jakeryan08

I have a couple of questions for my fellow brides. How soon before your wedding date did you send your invites and how long should I give everyone to RSVP. Also, do I put my wedding registry information on the invites or tell everyone where we're registered at on the invites?? I read somewhere that it is rude to put that information on there but I don't understand how else I'm going to tell 200 people where we are registered.

andyandhillary

1)  6-8 weeks before the wedding is the rule* edit* of thumb.  Usually 10 weeks is the max time and a little under 6 weeks is ok.  That's just a general idea.

2)  Have the RSVP a week or two before the caterer needs numbers. 

3) No registry information included anywhere with the invites.  You may have it on your wedding website and have people find out via word of mouth.  It has worked for years so I wouldn't worry to much. 

AmoroAgain

No, you do not put in registry information, it's rude.  You send out the invites around 4-6 weeks before, and how early you want responses is based upon how soon your caterer needs the info.

Calypso1977

we sent ours out about 6 weeks ahead.

we gave folks about 3 weeks to RSVP.  that left 3 weeks to follow up with anyone who didnt RSVP, get hte final count in, etc.

No registry info in the invites.  Folks will figure it out or ask, or they will get this info with the shower invites if you have a shower.

L-Bride

You should send your invites out 6-8 weeks before your wedding. Do not put your registry information on your invitations. People will figure it out through word of mouth.

Mrs_AF

1. I did 8 weeks, but anywhere from 4-8 seems to be acceptable. If you didn't do Save the Dates you might want to send them earlier so they have time to make travel arrangements.

2. I did a little more than 3 weeks because we needed to tell our florist how many centerpieces we were going to need. We ended up ordering them all anyway, but oh well.

3. Don't put it on the invitation. People will find out by word of mouth or you can put it on a wedding website if you have one. You can make one for free and could be really helpful for out of town guests if you have area attractions and addresses for everything.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

People can google or ask where you are registered. Putting it on the invitations makes it look like you expect a gift in exchange for the invitation. I assume you aren't getting married for the gifts. If someone doesn't figure out where you're registered, they'll give you cash, a different gift, or nothing at all. It really isn't a big deal.

My invites are going out 8 weeks in advance (lots of people who live out of state) and my RSVP is three weeks before my wedding, since my catering numbers are due 10 days in advance.

tlv204

Ditto others. 6-8 weeks for invites. We asked for them to RSVP just like 2 weeks before the wedding because we didn't need to give the caterer the number until 5 days before, so that still gave us a week to call people. And definitely no on the registry information.  People will find out, trust me. It's not that hard to find out where someone is registered. Google, target.com, bedbathandbeyond.com, crateandbarrel.com, the knot i think even has something that can tell you where people are registered.  They'll figure it out just fine, don't worry about it and don't put it on the invites.

MyNameIsNot

1) Invites go out 6-8 weeks before the wedding.  10-12 for any international.  

2) Find out when your caterer needs final numbers.  It's usually 10-14 days out.  Back up about a week, and there's your RSVP date.  It's usually 3-4 weeks before the wedding.

3) You never mention anything about your registry unless you are asked.  Make sure your parents know, and leave it.  People will ask or do an internet search if they want to know.  Putting registry info in the invitation is like sending grandma a Christmas card and including a wish list.  It's very rude.