Being invited to sister-in-law's sister's wedding???

skits_1

So....my older brother is married. And my sister in law's sister is getting married.
She has invited my parents and myself to the wedding. I have never met her fiance, I don't particularly get along with her or even seen her in 5 years. We find this strange!

My question is, is it proper etiquette to invite my parents and myself to the wedding? I'm getting married 3 weeks later and did not invite sis in law's parents! (Even though we have met...). I'm wondering if this is tradition or if Im reading the wrong etiquette book...

kikibaby

Just depends on the family.  You're not really obligated to invite anyone.  And if you don't want to go to SIL's sister's wedding, then don't. 

danieliza1127

I don't think it's "proper etiquette" to do that, it's not wrong but it's certainly not required or traditional in my opinion.   I don't think you should feel obligated to invite her just because she invited you.  She makes her guest list, you make yours.

SarahPLiz

Either way is fine, but her move sounds a bit gift grabby in my head.

You do not have to reciprocate at all.

skits_1

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[QUOTE]Either way is fine, but her move sounds a bit gift grabby in my head. You do not have to reciprocate at all.
Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]

That's exactly my initial reaction and my parent's as well. I was also invited to her baby shower? Very strange.

skippylouwho

My DD and DS are both engaged. DD will invite DS's FILs to her wedding. DS will invite DD's FILs to his wedding.  It's not required, it isn't a gift grab.  We share our children with both of these families and will be together at times over the years so we want them to join us and be a part of these family/life celebrations.  I did not tell my children who to invite but they both wanted to include the "other" families.

skillen1123

For our wedding we did invite my FI's brother in law's parents, but only because we really get along with them.  I have never heard of needing to invite your in-laws family or ever thought about it being proper.  I wouldn't think too much into why she did invite you or if you should have invited them... If you want to go - i say go, but with it being 3 weeks prior to yourwedding you have every excuse to get out of it if you don't want to go. 

tenofcups4me

Depends on the family. I don't know why your first thought would be gift-grabby. It's the norm in many families to extend out when new people join in.  

When I got married the first time I asked my sister if I should invite her MIL since that's what I've often seen. She hated her so she said no, but if they had had a nice relationship, I'm sure I would have invited her.

Honestly, if you have room, I'd go ahead and invite SIL's parents to your own wedding. No, you don't have to. But I think it's an easy way to ensure continued good relationships.

Pirata13

If you are not close or don't really socialize, then I wouldn't invite them.

My parents get along well with my SIL's parents, and her sisters and I get along. We often all have dinner together if my family visits, and my SIL's grandmother knits me things.  So for us, totally "normal" to invite each other's families. My SIL's youngest sister is getting married in April. We are going to Virginia for her shower. My parents will attend the wedding, FI & I will not due to schedule/vacation conflicts.  They will all be invited to mine and may or may not attend.

I think it's a case by case basis depending on the relationship of the families. I think it's totally fine that you do not invite the SIL's sister or her parents.