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I skipped an old friend's wedding

and now I feel like a terrible person. 

I haven't seen her since last Christmas Eve when we talked for all of 5 minutes at church.  She let me know when she got engaged a year and a half ago but said she was getting married this winter down south.  Fast forward from not hearing from her for about 6 months (I called her when FI proposed) and I received a mass Facebook invite to her reception in two weeks time.  It was two hours away on a Friday night and I was invited to the bar for 9:30 at night.  Based upon the fact that I am still tight with everyone we hung out with in high school I knew none of them were invited so I wouldn't know many people other than her parents and brothers.  So I didn't go.  I was hoping the weather would be bad so I could use that as an excuse but of course it was perfect. 

I now feel as though our relationship will never resurrect, but I also don't think she was trying that hard.  Maybe if I had gone it would have?  I just feel weird about it.  Sorry about the LJ post. 

Re: I skipped an old friend's wedding

  • I would've done the exact same thing after being invited by facebook message.

  • A mass Facebook invite? Eh, I don't think I'd feel that bad.
  • Wow, based on the way she invited you, or actually didn't invite you, I don't think you should feel bad at all.  I'm sorry, but a FB invite for 9:30pm doesn't really count as an invitation to me, more like an afterthought.
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  • Wait, were you invited to the wedding, reception, or after party?

    If it was just the after party, I wouldn't feel bad AT ALL.
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  • A mass fb invitation to a wedding is beyond tacky.  It truly sounds more like an invitation to join them for the after party.  You shouldn't feel badly at all.

  • Did she even have RSVP's for the mass FB invite? Who knows, maybe she didn't even notice you weren't there. Which is probably more bad news for your friendship, sorry. I don't think she is in a place to be offended that you couldn't make it, based on how you were "invited."



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