What to do about a nick name?

akasper16

My FI's name is Andrew.  Everyone calls him Drew. He rarely goes by Andrew.  We want to create a monogram and do other things with our names/initals, but I am unsure whether to use an "A" for his name or a "D".   We just think that if people see an "A" they will be confused.  Does it matter?

salt78

I highly doubt people would be confused. Drew is an extremely common nickname for Andrew. It's not like they call him "Biff" and his real name is Andrew. 

tenofcups4me

I'd use the name he goes by. When he thinks of himself in a formal situation, does he think of himself as Andrew or Drew? Doesn't really matter what others think is "right" in this situation. (Although before that, my real answer is that I probably just wouldn't do anything with initials if neither one of you has a strong feeling about how to do it.)

akasper16

I didn't mean confused..  I meant maybe do a double take.

duckie1905

I would go with his full name.  Weddings are formal events, for the most part, and using a nickname doesn't convey that formality.  I'm sure no one will be confused-as Drew is a very common nickname for Andrew.  Additionally, I'm sure that his friends and family know his full name and even if a few do a double-take, does it matter?

salt78

I think you are overthinking it. My brother is also Drew. It's a typical casual form of Andrew. I'd just use the A. Especially if you are writing out "Andrew" on the invitations. 

AdeleDazeem

I agree with Duckie and I nearly wrote the exact same thing before I checked the post again.

Weddings are formal and I think using the initial A makes more sense than using D.

If people don't know that his real name is Andrew, then they'll learn something new (or feel a smidge dumb for not knowing in the first place).

opalsky007

If I were in this situation, I think I'd skip using the first two initials and just use the last initial. The monogram I had designed for our wedding is a decorative letter K with our first names below it.

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biffsnort

akasper16

Thank you for your suggestions.  He does go by Andrew in formal situations.  Our invitations are going to say Andrew and we are going to be introduced as Mr. & Mrs. Andrew so it makes sense to use "A" or Andrew for the monogram. 

thesuninherhead

My H's nickname is Anko. His real name is Nicholas. We used Nicholas on the invitations, and I'm quite certain everyone knew who we were referencing. If our guests can figure that out, I'm sure yours will realise that Andrew = Drew. 

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[QUOTE]we are going to be introduced as Mr. & Mrs. Andrew  
Posted by akasper16[/QUOTE]
are you changing your name to andrew? that's kinda weird.

akasper16

no I didn't want to post our last name. 

akasper16

Mr. & Mrs. Andrew (last name). I thought people would figure out what I meant.