envelope wording

cloudgrl17

I have some adult first cousins that live at home with their parents, my aunt and uncle.  Some of them have significant others that we would like to invite to our wedding.  How do I address the envelope to include my aunt, uncle, cousins, and their boyfriends/girlfriends?  I'm trying to avoid having to send each cousin a separate invitation as it seems silly to send multiple invites to the same household.  Help please

crash2729

A person over the age of 18 should receive their own invitation. 

I sent multiple invitations to the same household.

JessAndTrav

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[QUOTE]A person over the age of 18 should receive their own invitation.  I sent multiple invitations to the same household.
Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]

When we were doing our invitations, I had a relative that was over 18 and living at home, and not thinking about it, I just sent one invite to "The Jones Family" which included her, and then I got this phone call about how she was SO UPSET because she didn't get invited to the wedding.

I totally understood that I made the faux pas, but I also was annoyed that she made a huge deal out of not getting her own personal invite.

I bet you $100 she didn't frame the invite and just tossed it in the trash.

JessAndTrav

OP, sorry, I forgot to add my advice:

Just send the invitations individually. You don't want to start drama over invitations, but I feel your pain.

Summer2011Bride

Yeah I understand where you're coming from because we were in that situation. In one case, we sent FOUR invitations to the same house (aunt and uncle with three boys over 18 who were all in college and home for the summer when invitations went out). But I would go ahead and send the separate invitations. Especially when you have SOs to invite, it's just much easier than trying to list that all on one invitation.

cloudgrl17

What should I do if there are people under 18 in the household too?  The family has some kids in high school and others who are in college but still live at home.  It's the college kids whom we are inviting with their long time SOs.  I feel like it would be weird to send a separate invitation to some of the kids and not others.

crash2729

Under 18 go on the parents invites. 

Over 18 are separate. I'm sure the parents will understand should the younger kids have any questions.

DramaGeek

Address the family one to the parents and the HS age kids.  Send an additional invitation to each over-18 child addressed to them and their SO.

starael

If they are under 18/ not graduated from high school or living on their own, send the invite to the parents house. If Sally Smith is 17, Example:
Mr. and Mrs. David Smith
Sally
(Address)

If Sally is 18 and has a SO you want to invite, send to Sally:
Sally Smith
(Significant other's name)
(Sally's address, even if she lives with parent(s))