My fiance and I are paying for our wedding ourselves, and doing so with a tight budget. Our list of "must have" guests includes immediate family (no farther removed than cousins) and the friends we simply can't imagine not being there. We're not inviting significant others unless they're married. Even with these stipulations, our guest list is at 100. We even contemplated not allowing children to keep costs down, even though that would be difficult and probably offensive to a good half of our guests...and frankly I like all the kids and would like to have them there.
The problem is that, even knowing all of this, my sister is throwing a tantrum about not being able to invite her boyfriend. Her boyfriend she's only known for six months and who I've never even met. Sure that could change in the five+ months between now and our wedding, but unlikely since I don't live near her. My mother says that if they're still together at the time of the wedding, that will have been a year and should indicate that they're serious enough for him to be included.
My sister is serious with every guy she dates. She's been engaged twice, though never married, simply because she decides on date 2 that she's in love and on date 3 that she's going to marry the guy. So I take her seriousness about this guy with a grain of salt. Secondly, from what she has told me about him, I don't like him and want him no where near my sister. And she knows this. He claims to be a fairly high ranking member of the hell's angels. Which in my eyes makes him either a liar or dangerous and no good. She knows how I feel as it leads to an argument every time he comes up. And yet she is hellbent on convincing me to invite him to my wedding.
The only thing holding me back from reading her the riot act is the fact that I do want her to be happy and have fun at the wedding. I'm the youngest in the family and yet the first to be married, which I know can be difficult for the older siblings. Add to that, our father died a year ago of cancer and anything that will keep all of us from dwelling on his absence can't be a bad thing right? Even if for her it is the presence of someone I'd rather not be there.
But at the same time, it's supposed to be my day, not to mention exponentially more difficult for me to handle dad's absence on that day than my sister, so shouldn't I be able to have everything the way I want it?
I'm driving myself crazy with this, and she brings it up every time I talk to her. Am I being a selfish bitch to not want to invite him?