Got an invitation and I'm confused...

Krysti21

I just got a wedding invitation from a friend of my MOH who has become a pretty good friend of mine too. The envelope is addressed to me AND my fiance, but the reply card only has space for ONE reply:

M_______________
__ happily accepts
__ declines with regret

So I'm confused. I don't want to write in my fiance when there's only space for one name, but he's listed on the envelope. Am I reading this incorrectly or is this weird? And what should I do? Just list myself and go alone? I do NOT want to write him in...but he's listed on the envelope...

kate51485

If it's addressed to you both, you're both invited.  You write both your names after the M.  The M is a beginning for Mr. or Ms./Mrs.

Just curious, is this the first invitation you've ever received?

ETA -- and put the number attending next to accepts. 

scoetto

You're both invited.

therickson

You are both invited.... I will agree I never liked the "M" at the beginning but it does let people know to write in names there...

Krysti21

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_got-invitation-im-confused?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9eee90f6-7c32-40fe-bc38-2f010cef0133Post:23f1b54c-ee64-44db-b6e7-904934b15123">Re: Got an invitation and I'm confused...</a>:
[QUOTE]If it's addressed to you both, you're both invited.  You write both your names after the M.  The M is a beginning for Mr. or Ms./Mrs. Just curious, is this the first invitation you've ever received? ETA -- and put the number attending next to accepts. 
Posted by kate51485[/QUOTE]

No, it's not the first invitation I've ever received. I've just never seen one in this format. They've always had the same number of spaces as invitees.

Krysti21

Thanks girls!

JanoBean75

It's a pretty standard format, but a LOT of people don't understand it, so don't feel bad.
People would get more confused with "will ______ attend" so more brides opt for giving accept or regret choices.

Just write both your names (Ms. Krysti Lastname and Mr. FI Lastname) on the line and put a 2 on accepts/regrets. You could also just put your names and a check mark on accepts/regrets; as long as both your names are there, it's fine to check it.

Krysti21

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_got-invitation-im-confused?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9eee90f6-7c32-40fe-bc38-2f010cef0133Post:39b705d2-a631-4cb7-9c80-689d64aba814">Re: Got an invitation and I'm confused...</a>:
[QUOTE]It's a pretty standard format, but a LOT of people don't understand it, so don't feel bad. People would get more confused with "will ______ attend" so more brides opt for giving accept or regret choices. Just write both your names (Ms. Krysti Lastname and Mr. FI Lastname) on the line and put a 2 on accepts/regrets. You could also just put your names and a check mark on accepts/regrets; as long as both your names are there, it's fine to check it.
Posted by JanoBean75[/QUOTE]

Thanks. Now I don't feel so bad. :)