Is this rude?

PrincessKait4688

OK ladies I need some help on something! My FI surprised me and is having a make up artist come to the house to do my make up on the day of our wedding. I talked to her and she said she has enough time that day to do more then just my make up so if the girls want something done to let her know soon so she can block out the time. All of my BM (and my self as well) are in grad school/just starting out so I know they don't have a ton of money to be wasting. I was planing on doing my own make up as well till FI surprised me. So I sent them a text that said " hey ladies Joe surprised me with a make up artist for the wedding day she can fit you in if you want and her services run anywhere from $20 for air brush foundation all the way up to $60 for a full face of make up. This is in NO WAY  a requirement just wanted to know if you would be interested." That was three days ago and normally they respond with in 5 minutes. I just bumped into one at school and she kind of gave me an attitude. Was that rude of me to say to them?

mrszeno34

I said the same thing to my bridesmaids, leaving it up to them if they would like to have it done, but then they will need to pay for it.  I think that's pretty standard...

PrincessKait4688

Yeah I thought it wasen't rude! I am actually taking care of their hair already because my older brother is a hair stylist and is doing all of their hair for free (well I am taking out to his favorite restaurant). I thought since they were saving on that they may want to reallocate the funds to make up. I just have been trying really hard to make it not be a huge financial burden on them. I even let them pick their own dresses so they could pick something they felt comfortable paying for. I have gone broke paying for stuff for other peoples weddings (including a $300 dress for the girl who gave me attitude wedding) and I didn't want to put that expense on them. Thanks for backing me up ladies!

AlmostMrsStrong

Not rude at all. Maybe she was having a bad day?

My MOH was a make-up artist and offered to do my make up and the wedding party's makeup. I don't know what I'd do without her. I'm going to pay one of her former co-workers as well so it's not all on her, especially since it's me and 6 BM, including her.

cebrady89

Not rude at all! I'm sure if a friend was upset it was over something else, because nothing you said sounded offensive, in my opinion.

kennazebrowsky

I would be wondering why no response too, I mean not even a "thanks girl I will let you know". But like pp all said what you did was not rude.

LittleMissCutiePie

Totally fine. Finances are involved, so they probably have to think on it. Your BM who gave you 'tude probably wasn't trying to be rude, and you're just overthinking it. There's plenty of time for them to make their decision, so give it a good while. Then, as you see them, just remind them. "Hey BM, just a reminder, my makeup artist is available to do your makeup. I know you'll look gorgeous either way, but I just want  to throw the option out there."

SCogs18

I did the exact same thing with my bridesmaids.  I e-mailed them all basically saying "I love you all and you are beautiful no matter what, but if you want to have your hair or make up done on the big day let me know.  Hair/up-dos are $x and make-up is $x.  Let me know if you're interested, since I'm about ready to book for myself.  If I don't hear from you I'll follow up in a few days "

I'd give it a week and then check back in.  From what you posted here I think you were perfectly fine.

Lcam510

I just sent out the exact same email earlier this week - 2 BM's and my Mom said yes, the others said No thanks. I was also in a wedding last year where I received the same email and I didn't think it was rude at all - I actually thought it was considerate of my friend to include us in case we did want to get glammed up with her.

musicjailbird7

That's not rude. I agree with the girls above. In fact that's a nice option

EmilyBarrows

It is not rude at all.  I have been in several weddings where they have made offers for us to get our hair/make-up/nails done with someone but it was known that the cost would fall on the shoulders of the bridesmaid.  I would just double-check and tell them you have to let the lady know.  Also make sure that they understand they don't have to get their make-up done.  Lastly, I would do this through a phone call.  Texting allows for the receiver to hear whatever tone of voice they want. 

SheilaB614

This is not at all rude.  My best friend got married last year and I was a BM in her wedding.  She sent us a similar email about getting our hair done if we wanted to.  You have already noted to them that it's not required.  There are no hard feelings if they want to just do it themselves.

yelojeep

NOT AT ALL!!  i am having everyone go to a salon the day of to get our hair done, as we have all done in the past in each other's weddings.. i gave everyone the price of an up-do and also the price of the make-up, saying the make-up was optional as none of us have a ton of extra money!  only one took me up on the make-up, but that's totally ok with me!  i don't think it was rude at all, i did basically the same thing making it optional.  you should follow up with them just to make sure they know it's completely optional.

AnnaG1082

No, I just booked my makeup artist and told my brides maides the same thing and they understood that I can't afford to pay for everything. Some said that they would have their makeup done and some said no thanks.

vaneshwa124

I don't think that was rude at all.Sounds to me like you gave them the option, if they can great if not that's ok too. 

tiffanymarten

Nope, I don't think so at all. If was nice of you to give them the option especially if this could be costly for some of them. I wouldn't stress over it.

muoshoo

No, you were not rude. You can always call them personally and see what they think, that way they have to say something. Good luck!

jgottschalk0385

Absolutely NOT rude! I'm a newly engaged bride and have been most recently a BM for my brothers now wife. She did the same exact thing with the hair dresser. In no way did I feel it was rude to provide the possibility of having a hair dresser, makeup artist, etc. It sounds like your BM may have felt as though this was just another expense on her plate, even though you explicitly said it was not a necessity.