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Shower invites to OOT guests who we know can't make it?

Jo&Lo83Jo&Lo83 member
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My MOH wants addresses for FI's side - however, every single family member besides his parents are living in MO/KS - we are in MN.  I am requesting that we don't send them a shower  invite - I dont' want to look gift grabby!  She thinks we still should....what is the ettiquette on sending shower invites to people you KNOW cannot make it?
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  • bmoruzzibmoruzzi member
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    I would still send it.  People would probably be more offended if you didnt.
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  • achiduckachiduck member
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    I'd still send the invite. It's nice for your guests to know they are thought of an included even if they won't be able to make it.
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  • chelseamb11chelseamb11 member
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    I  agree with the others.  There is no way to KNOW they can't make it.  It doesn't look gift grabby, it just looks like you want to include them.  FI has some aunts/female cousins out in KS and NC, but we are still inviting them to the shower in the off chance they'd be able to make it.
     
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  • LoopysevenLoopyseven member
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    I'd make sure if you are sending OOT invites that they are truly to the nearest and dearest.  I only invited my out of town grandmothers and aunts that I've had relationships with growing up.  No cousins or anyone only distantly related or it really does turn kind of gift grabby.  
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  • MyUserName1MyUserName1 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_shower-invites-oot-guests-cant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9f3fbb33-480f-4302-ade6-da5a19d1e84aPost:1f4fbf13-c29b-4793-8d51-af60ed95d151">Re: Shower invites to OOT guests who we know can't make it?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'd make sure if you are sending OOT invites that they are truly to the nearest and dearest.  I only invited my out of town grandmothers and aunts that I've had relationships with growing up.  No cousins or anyone only distantly related or it really does turn kind of gift grabby.  
    Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]

    <div>This!</div><div>
    </div><div>I'd definitely send one to Grandma who I know can't make it.  I would not send one to my second cousin I haven't seen in years.</div>
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