paying for bridal party hair and makeup

lissypooh628

I have 3 girls in the bridal party, plus I'd like to include my mother.

At this time, I don't think I can afford to cover the entire cost of hair and makeup. (since it will be 5 of us total)

Hair $75
Makeup $40

(they're being done by 2 different people unrelated to each other)

Is it ok for me to tell the girls I will cover half the cost or just pick either hair or makeup and outright pay for it?

thesuninherhead

Normally the girls pay for their own makeup and hair, however there's also the option for them to opt out and do it themselves if they're not comfortable with the expense... so yes, presuming you are not forcing them to have anything done, either of your options for covering part of the expense are fine and above and beyond that which you would be required to cover under normal wedding etiquette. 

aMrsin09

Yep, what Thesun said.  You only need to pay for it if you are requiring them to get it done.

lissypooh628

Well, I definately am requiring they at least get their hair done (I picked out the style).  And since all 3 of the girls are from OOT I'm trying to take away some of the expense for them since they have to rent a hotel room, car, buy plane tickets, etc...

Maybe I could give them the option of makeup and I will help pay for hair.

Thanks!!! 

thesuninherhead

You're welcome- sounds like a good plan.

AlexiaANDRobert

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[QUOTE]Well, <strong>I definately am requiring they at least get their hair done</strong> (I picked out the style).  And since all 3 of the girls are from OOT I'm trying to take away some of the expense for them since they have to rent a hotel room, car, buy plane tickets, etc... Maybe I could give them the option of makeup and <strong>I will help pay for hair</strong>. Thanks!!!  :)
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If you're requiring they get they hair done, and you picked the style, then you're not helping pay for their hair, you ARE paying for their hair.

kristinanddan

If you're requiring them to get there hair done (and all the same style - reallyl?!) you need to pay for the entire cost of the hair stylist.

[Deleted User]

I can't afford it either, but most of them are getting it done on their own. I told them I really didn't care as long as it looked nice and presentable for pics.

CTGirl30

You picked out the style? 

squirrly

If you're requiring they get their hair done, you need to pay.  And, I can sort of understand wanting the same style.  However, why not SUGGEST that style, but let each BM and the stylist tweak as necessary to be appropriate and attractive on each of them, given their hair, face shape, etc. 

Food for thought - I have a TON of hair.  And if you wanted a style that I have too much hair for, I would NOT be willing to cut it for you.  And I'd be pissed that you asked.  Instead, why not a similar interpretation that works with what I've got?

As for makeup, so long as it's optional it's ok if they pay themselves.  I can't afford everybody's hair AND makeup too, so I'm taking care of hair (any style they want), and the makeup chick is available if they want theirs done and it's in their budget.  Otherwise, they're on their own for that.

Beachy730

I agree, if you are requiring they get their hair done, then you should be paying for it.  Leave makeup optional and let them pay for that if they choose to get it done.  I gave all my girls the option of getting both hair and makeup, one, or neither, and am not paying for it.  I considered buying them a gift certificate to the place for part of it,  but ended up buying their shoes instead.  I only have 1 girl getting both hair and makeup, and 1 doing neither, the rest all just hair. 

Why did you pick out the style for them?  Do you just really want everyone to look identical?  I completely agree with squirrly - if you picked out a style that required me to cut my hair, I would flat out refuse.  Also, I hate how I look in certain hairstyles, so I wouldnt want to be forced to wear a style that I didn't like.  I understand that its "our day" as the bride, but I would much rather have my BMs be comfortable and feel gorgeous themselves. 

lissypooh628

I was at the salon the other day and saw a great style that will work for all 3 girls.  The stylist said she can tweak it for them depending on the weather that day and hair length, etc.  It's a low ponytail type thing that's kind of pulled around the side (so hard to explain but it's very pretty and will look so nice on all of them).  We are getting married on the beach and I dont want them to have hair blowing in their faces.... and it's a good way to cover up the tattoo on the back of my niece's neck.   I would Never ask anyone to cut their hair for my wedding (even though I've been forced to pierce my ears for someone's wedding).  I sent a pic to all of the girls and everyone is fine with it.
you are absolutely right.. if this is something I'm requiring of them.. then I am responsible for it.  Thanks!!

mags0607

I think as long as everyone's hair works with the style as is, and you can tweak the style to the individual girl, and you are payng for it, then the same style seems fine. That sounds very tasteful and not at all atrocious, which was my initial reaction when you said you picked out hairstyle.

lissypooh628

I probably would have had the same reaction as most of you if I didn't know what the style looked like.  But your reactions have prompted me to double check with the girls on their thoughts again... (2 of them are my nieces and one is my BFF so they are all family to me and have no reason so walk on eggshells if they seriously dont like it)..

thanks!

MyNameIsNot

Why do you want them to have the same style?  

I just don't get it.