Catch up notes:
-Our wedding is on a Sat evening so because of Shabbat it cant not start until 6:15 and will be approx a 40 min ceremony, followed by cocktail hour, then 4 course dinner/dancing.
-Our venue I am utterly in love with, but it can only fit 180 people so we have already drastically cut down our list.
-FI nor I have kids, none of our friends have kids, and neither of us has neices/nephews.
FMIL seemed appauled when about 3 weeks into planning I mentioned that I didn't really want children at the wedding. To the point where she was sending me rather strongly worded emails, as well as to my parents (who agree with me.) She sees the wedding as being a family event, agreed, where child should be fully welcomed. I want kids at the RD and day after brunch, but not at our actual wedding. Main reason? Said kids are children of FI's cousins and at the wedding will be: twin 10 months, 2 years, 3 years, and 7 years. We are having blacktie wedding and an upscale hotel, not necessarily a setting for small children. Also we have never met any of these children. FI agrees with me on this one. Am I totally wrong on this one? My parents are providing childcare, 2 PICU nurses, at the hotel where the ceremony and reception take place.
Also, should FMIL or FI call these people and kindly tell them that the cerem/recp are adult only? I feel like this is a better option than potentially making an awkward phone call after they RSVP with their childrens names.
Thank you!