Empty card, probably meant to have

casyme

We received a wedding shower card from an older relative who has always given me a cash gift for my birthday and Xmas every year, even though I'm into my 30s. The card was empty just a "Love" and signature. And no gift followed.

Not every card has money in it. And I don't care about not getting money or a gift. But I'm starting to think there's a decent chance that he THOUGHT he put money in that card, and when he doesn't get a thankyou for the gift, he'll be hurt.

I'll wait until after the wedding to see if a gift arrives. But if it doesn't, I'll be even more convinced that he thought there was money in that card. It would be super rude to ask him. What should I do?

Avion22

Do nothing.  It would be rude to ask.  Presumably you always have thanked this relative appropriately before, so if he doesn't get a thank-you card he will probalby start asking if you received it.    

jemmini6

The only way you can really do this is send a thank-you note for their attendance and for the card.  If they meant to include a check or cash, the lack of mention of it in your thank-you note might promt them to ask if you've received it.  However, beyond that, there's not much you can do without coming off rude.

lcatterton

Maybe just send him a thank you card for the card that he sent and don't mention anything about money or anything. Maybe he'll be curious as to why you only thanked him for the card and nothing else and will bring it up himself. Or he might just mention it offhand if you see him soon. I'd just wait and see if it will pan out.

TheSlowskys

In Response to Re:Empty card, probably meant to have:[QUOTE]Maybe just send him a thank you card for the card that he sent and don't mentionnbsp;anything about money or anything. Maybe he'll bei curious as to why you only thanked him for the card and nothing else and will bring it up himself. Or he might just mention it offhand if you see him soon. I'd just wait and see if it will pan out. Posted by lcatterton[/QUOTE]

I think it would be really weird to send a thank you card for a card. I would do nothing.

TheSlowskys

Also you said it was a he. Was he invited to the shower? I would assume not so I would think the card was just a nice gesture and you will probably get a gift for the wedding.

Calypso1977

was it one of those specific money holder cards, you know, the tall narrow ones or was it just a nice card that didnt have anything in it?

if it was a specific money holder card, then i would think he clearly intended to put something in.  but regardless, i wouldnt ask.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I wouldn't ask. Most likely he will ask your mom or another relative if you got the cash/check if he doesn't get a thank you note.

pearls687

I would just send a thank-you card with a personal note saying "Thanks so much for your thoughfulness." or "Thanks so much for thinking of us."  It's genuine and, although it doesn't ideally mention a specific gift, at least you're covered either way without asking about money and risking embarrassing him by pointing out that he forgot to include it if he meant to.

calindi

I have and do send thank you cards to people for thank you cards.  I think it's totally appropriate in this situation, as it sounds you don't WANT him to find out and feel bad that he didn't include money if he intended to.

I'd write something like, "Dear Uncle Jim, I received your kind card, thank you so much for thinking of us!  It means a lot to me that you took the time to send us that for our wedding.  Looking forward to seeing you soon!"  That way it SEEMS like you got a gift without SAYING you got a gift, if he did in fact leave it out intentionally.

OwningAHome1981

Most people keep track of their checking accounts online. Wouldn't he eventually realize that you never cashed the check if he intended to give you one? It's always nice to send a thank you a card bc it's the thought that counts not the gift inside, but if u don't mention anything I think he will realize it eventually anyway.