Thank yous for wedding party

xcalison21

I was just wondering if it is weird for me to want to send a thank you note to members of my bridal party just before planning sets in.  I understand that this does not replace the thank yous for after the wedding and the thank you gift.  I am just starting to realize how much of my time is going to be taken up with planning especially with school and work.  Since two of my bridesmaids are starting graduate school and one undergraduate I am realizing how much of their time is going to be spent helping me.  I would like them to know going into the process that I am grateful for their time/efforts in helping me with everything. 

nextrightthing

Take them out for dinner and drinks or something, or call them up and express your gratitude.  It would be a little weird to send TY cards before they have done the stuff for which you are thanking them....unless your circle often sends cards.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]I was just wondering if it is weird for me to want to send a thank you note to members of my bridal party just <strong>before planning sets in</strong>.  I understand that this does not replace the thank yous for after the wedding and the thank you gift.  I am just starting to realize how much of my time is going to be taken up with <strong>planning</strong> especially with school and work.  Since two of my bridesmaids are starting graduate school and one undergraduate I am realizing how much of their time is going to be spent helping me.  I would like them to know going into the process that I am grateful for their time/efforts <strong>in helping me with everything.</strong> 
Posted by xcalison21[/QUOTE]

What do you mean? What exactly do you think they'll be doing as far as planning goes?

xcalison21

My MOH had offered to step in as "wedding coordinator."  I did not ask her, she offered.  She enjoys planning parties, vacations, ect.  Another bridesmaid offered to make favors, invitations, save-the-dates, ect.  She loves anything that lets her get her artistic juices flowing.  Again she was kind enough to offer her services I did not ask.  They both know that I will not be receiving any help from my parents with the wedding bc of their health (mom has MS and dad is in remission from colon cancer).  Because of this knowledge they have been very kind to offer their help to me once I told them I was engaged.  That is the reason for my gratitude.  They are not required to help.  They have just opened up their hearts and time to help me.  They are the closest thing I have to sisters and their generosity reminds me how lucky I am to have them.

Meegles4

I would send TYs AFTER said "services" have been done. So, if your friend ends up helping with your STDs, send a note after they're in the mail. If your MOH offers to be your day of coordinator as well, you can thank her for that in the note you give her at the rehearsal or another time right before the wedding.