3 moms

KelliLouis531

So my Fiance has a mom who lives out of state and whom i have never met... I know his step-mom pretty well and get along with her great... My dilemma is how do I include all 3 of them (my mom, his mom, and his step mom) in the ceremony... Its traditional so how do I include his mom and his step mom without making anyone feel like there toes are being stepped on? His mother raised him until he was about 12 and then him and his dad moved here and his dad remarried... at that point his step-mom has been like a mother to him... Please Help!!!!

NOLAbridealmost

Get all three women a corsage. Seat them in this order:  FI stepmom, FI mom, your mom. Then after your mom is seated the music changes and the guests know that the WP is about to enter. That's traditional. 

NOLAbridealmost

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_3-moms?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a200c846-e1f9-4cbc-bda4-5d789f2c638fPost:e8e0f0fc-d00a-4380-840e-7a2497c6b8f6">Re: 3 moms</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: 3 moms : For anyone who might be confused, NOLA means to have them walk down the aisle in that order. Not actually make them sit next to each other in that order.
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]

<div>Hahaha, yeah.</div>

Birdie1483

I agree with NOLA on having them walk down the aisle in that order.

Will his mom be upset that his step-mom is walking down the aisle at the beginning of the ceremony? If not, then that's your answer. If so, it might be best to give your step-mom a corsage, but have her seated at the beginning and then do something else special with her at the reception (like have your fiance dance with her). I wouldn't have two mother/groom dances though if you this route. I would just have the one with his mom and then he can share a special dance with his step-mom while others are dancing.

lindseyann410

I have a mom and an ex-step-mom that I still consider to be a mother.  FI has a mom and step-mom as well.  

They will walk down the aisle right before the wedding party.  We also plan on having a tree planting ceremony.  Each mother will bring a mason jar of soil from their homes that we will use to help plant the tree  (I know this sounds messy, but we have it planned out so that it will be pretty and clean.)  The soil represents the foundations that our families have provided us.  I think it will be  a nice way to include everyone.

Corsages are another common way to go.