Guest list plus one dilema

janlguthrie

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baystateapple

The members of the WP (like the best man) should be allowed guests.

It is your choice whether or not to allow your friends to have +1s if they are not in a relationship.  However, it is a nice gesture if you can afford it, especially if you invite someone who doesn't know anyone else at the wedding.

I would give the Best Man a +1.

hlq2011

Ditto Baystate.  Wedding party should have a plus one offered to them.

Plus, think about it.  It's your FBIL who wants to bring a guest.  Do you really want to start a fight with your in-laws over this?

For the rest of the guests, though, it's perfectly okay not to have plus-ones for people who aren't in relationships (as long as they will know others at the wedding).  If people have a problem with it, they are welcome not to come.

Summer2011Bride

Yes I'd let the best man bring a plus one. Not worth it to start family drama over it. All the WP should really be offered to bring a guest.

For other guests, we are just inviting plus ones for those in relationships right now. All our single friends know other people at the wedding anyhow. It's fine if you want to do that.

A&EToBe

We lucked out that most of our guests are in serious relationships, so it wasn't even a question.  for the few that it applied to, it wasn't an outrageous expense to allow them a plus one.  There were a few exceptions to the rule (like the crazy cousin that we weren't sure the type of person she would bring as a plus one... she's getting a single invite.) I know that's not technically "proper" but it saves us headaches in the end.

When I was in my sister's wedding party, I wasn't allowed a plus one (because I would "be too busy to entertain a guest anyway" I can say, I was more than a little miffed.  Allow the best man a plus one for sure.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Something to think about - have you ever gone to a wedding by yourself?

achiduck

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[QUOTE]Something to think about - have you ever gone to a wedding by yourself?
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

Ditto AATB. Going to a wedding solo sucks (unless you've got multiple other single friends there).

Obviously budget is always a consideration when deciding whether or not to allow 100% single guests to bring a guest. If you can afford it, definitely offer everyone a guest. Otherwise, if you choose to not let single people bring guests, you need to address the invite to "Miss Jane Smith" and do something on the rsvp card like: Miss Jane Smith _____ accepts _____ regrets.

hlq2011

Sorry, AATB, but that bugs me.

I totally get if it's someone who doesn't know anyone at the wedding, or only knows a couple people.  But there are a couple people in our group of friends who aren't in relationships.  They aren't dating anyone.  They are the definition of single.

But they know a dozen other people at the wedding, at least.  I'm not inviting them with guests just so they aren't coming alone.  They know people.  They have people to sit with and talk to, and will dance with others in the group. I'm not stretching my budget further so they can have a date just to have one.

katieisawesome

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[QUOTE]Sorry, AATB, but that bugs me. I totally get if it's someone who doesn't know anyone at the wedding, or only knows a couple people.  But there are a couple people in our group of friends who aren't in relationships.  They aren't dating anyone.  They are the definition of single. But they know a dozen other people at the wedding, at least.  I'm not inviting them with guests just so they aren't coming alone.  They know people.  They have people to sit with and talk to, and will dance with others in the group. I'm not stretching my budget further so they can have a date just to have one.
Posted by hlq2011[/QUOTE]

<div>It can irritate you but that doesn't mean it isn't true.  It sucks to go to weddings alone.  No matter how many people you know who are also guests.  It sucks to not have someone to talk to all night (which you automatically have if you have a date), someone to dance with, etc.</div><div>
</div><div>IMO, it would be important to me that everyone have a really nice time.  For me, that would mean having a date if I wanted one.</div>

hlq2011

Katie, that's your perspective and that's fine.  But I think it's rude as a guest to expect the hosts to accommodate your need to bring a random person just so you have someone else to talk to in addition to your friends or family who will already be present.

If someone didn't invite FI when they invited me to a wedding, I'd be pissed.  But if I was single, and invited as part of a group of friends or family, I wouldn't expect to bring a guest.

jelenybeany

I was invited to a wedding while single and was not offered a plus one. Myself and four other coworkers of the bride were invited (we worked at a resteraunt so no, she didn't invite all 150 employees) I obviously knew all the coworkers. I wasn't offered a plus one and I thought nothing of it. We had a great time, and not one of us was allowed a random plus one. I think all memebers of the wedding party should be allowed a plus one, but I also don't think you need to cut your dress budget or use cheaper flowers just so you can have a bunch of random people at your wedding you don't know to "entertain" your single friends who already know other people at the wedding. Everyone can certainly have their own opinion on the matter because otherwise, everyone would have the same wedding. It irritates me to no end that a bride and groom are expected to compromise their wedding vision to accomodate silly "rules" that someone made up.

hlq2011

Ditto Katelyn.  You don't owe an explanation to your FMIL's coworker.  But seriously, think about it.  You're comparing your FMIL's coworker to your FBIL, the Best Man.  They are on completely different levels when it comes to wedding guest status.

If someone is in a relationship, they get to bring that person.
If someone is in the wedding party, they should be able to bring a guest.

It is not your place, however, to want to deny your FBIL a guest because you think he should take the wedding as a chance to spend time with his family.

aragx6

I would not suggest doing a B list. That's far more offensive than not allowing plus 1s.

MattsPenguin

Yeah, ditch the B list idea.

I don't think that it's unreasonable for your FBIL to ask to bring a date.  And I don't think that it'll look weird to your mother's co-worker.  How is she to know that his date isn't his S/O?

The only etiquette rules that you will get here regarding guests are:

If someone has a signifcant other (even if they've only been dating a few weeks), then they should NOT be split up as a social unit.  That person should be allowed to bring their date.

Also it is generally thought that WP members should ALWAYS be allowed to have guests.

For other people, it's a judgement call for you.  And if someone rsvp's with a guest that you weren't anticipating (and does not fit into the above categories), you have every right to call them and inform them that space is limited and that the invitation was only meant for them.



Regarding going to weddings solo, I went to them ALL.THE.TIME solo before I met FI.  I only brought a guest once, and that was a friend of mine who was also friends of the bride that wasn't invited.  She and I traveled together.  I never thought about bringing a guest, but I guess I always knew that I would have a great time with my friends.  Plus, get a few drinks in me, and I'm friends with EVERYONE!

tsp698

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[QUOTE]I also was not allowed to bring a guest with me when I was the maid of honor at my sisters wedding.  I have never been to a wedding alone but it is his brother's wedding.  He will know PLENTY of the people there and the issue is not really whether or not he should be allowed to bring a guest with him as much as <strong>it worries me that it will take away from his duties that day </strong>because he is worried about entertaining her. He has always been about hanging out with his friends.  He ditches his family to be with his friends and<strong> I thought that our wedding would be a good opportunity for him to spend it with his family.</strong>  If his mind is made up that he wants a date though that's fine.  But then how do I explain to my mother in law's co-worker whom I've never met, that she cannot bring a date.  <strong>We already have a 2nd list of people that we want to invite if the people on our first list can't go</strong>. Space is tight.  I thought that people were supposed to be understanding of issues like this. My mil said that she has always just assumed that when she personally was invited to a wedding and it didnt say "and guest" she still brought someone and I think that I so wrong. I have already been told by someone not in the wedding that he is bringing his girlfriend of a few weeks who he has never met in person yet to the wedding, so now I am worried that everyone just has no clue about what wedding etiquette is.
Posted by janlguthrie[/QUOTE]

First, What "duties" does he have?

 I can't imagine how him bringing a date would keep him too much from showing up in his tux and standing at the altar, and possibly making a speech later...because those are the only "duties" he should have.

To repeat what a previous poster said, it is not for you to dictate that he should be spending time with his family and not a date or friends.

I would seriously rethink your B-List, people could be very offended that they weren't good enough to make the first cut, it is fairly rude.

Edited because I apparently suck at spelling and grammar.

SteveandKris

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[QUOTE]I also was not allowed to bring a guest with me when I was the maid of honor at my sisters wedding.  I have never been to a wedding alone but it is his brother's wedding.  He will know PLENTY of the people there and the issue is not really whether or not he should be allowed to bring a guest with him as much as it worries me that it will take away from his duties that day because he is worried about entertaining her. He has always been about hanging out with his friends.  He ditches his family to be with his friends and I thought that our wedding would be a good opportunity for him to spend it with his family.  If his mind is made up that he wants a date though that's fine.  But then how do I explain to my mother in law's co-worker whom I've never met, that she cannot bring a date.  We already have a 2nd list of people that we want to invite if the people on our first list can't go. Space is tight.  I thought that people were supposed to be understanding of issues like this. My mil said that she has always just assumed that when she personally was invited to a wedding and it didnt say "and guest" she still brought someone and I think that I so wrong.<strong> I have already been told by someone not in the wedding that he is bringing his girlfriend of a few weeks who he has never met in person yet to the wedding</strong>, so now I am worried that everyone just has no clue about what wedding etiquette is.
Posted by janlguthrie[/QUOTE]

Honestly, if you haven't met them, are they really your girlfriend? 

NOLAbridealmost

We didn't give plus 1's to the single people in our wedding party.  Oops. 

Looking back on it, we should have. 

mdeidre

I've gone to weddings by myself and had a blast!  I do believe that you should allow the BM to bring a guest just to avoid family drama, but anyone else is up to you.  Anyone who tells you who they want to bring is being rude, period.  You explain to them that you're still working out your guest list, but the wedding/space/budget is small, so not everyone will be able to have a plus one.  If they have a problem with that, it's their problem, not yours.

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]<strong>I also was not allowed to bring a guest with me</strong> when I was the maid of honor at my sisters wedding.  <strong>I have never been to a wedding alone</strong> but it is his brother's wedding.  He will know PLENTY of the people there and the issue is not really whether or not he should be allowed to bring a guest with him as much as it worries me that it will take away from his duties that day because he is worried about entertaining her. He has always been about hanging out with his friends.  He ditches his family to be with his friends and I thought that our wedding would be a good opportunity for him to spend it with his family.  If his mind is made up that he wants a date though that's fine.  But then how do I explain to my mother in law's co-worker whom I've never met, that she cannot bring a date.  We already have a 2nd list of people that we want to invite if the people on our first list can't go. Space is tight.  I thought that people were supposed to be understanding of issues like this. My mil said that she has always just assumed that when she personally was invited to a wedding and it didnt say "and guest" she still brought someone and I think that I so wrong. I have already been told by someone not in the wedding that he is bringing his girlfriend of a few weeks who he has never met in person yet to the wedding, so now I am worried that everyone just has no clue about what wedding etiquette is.
Posted by janlguthrie[/QUOTE]

How can both of the bolded statements be true?

I also disagree with about 99% of your latest post - you're doing it wrong. If you'd actually like to learn proper etiquette, people here would be happy to give you some pointers, but I get the impression you'd rather do things you way, in which case I wish you the best of luck.

hlq2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest list plus one dilema : First of all I think everyone is paying way too much attention to the best man issue.  I think I've stated a few times now that if he decided to bring a date we would be fine iwth it except that it worries us.  I guess if you knew who the best man was, maybe you would understand because he is very irresponsible.  Of all the wedding events planned, he has shown up to one, and was an hour late.  I don't need to defend the other reasons why we would be worried about him being able to do his responisbilities, but they are actually quite a few more then just putting a tux on and showing up.  He has to be there the day before for the rehearsal, he has to help my fiance with any last minute things.  We are leaving the morning after our wedding for our honeymoon so he needs to be responsible for gathering our gifts and helping get all of our personal belongings from the wedding venue after the reception and he is responsible for taking them over to our house, and returning the grooms tux the next day after we've left. We are taking pictures before the ceremony to get the mout of the way so he wont be able to be with her for most of the day of the wedding anyways.  I have even offered to give these duties to other people so he wouldn't feel as though the load is entirely on him but the maid of honor has a newborn and wont be able to be much of a help later in the night and the best man WANTS the responsibility.

I also think that it is a pretty common practice for people to have a second list of invites when you hear that other people wont be attending.  I am not going to invite my Dad's highschool friend who I haven't seen since I was 3, unless one of my cousins or family members can't go.  It's not supposed to be offensive to them seeing as those people shouldn't be expected to be invited anyways. 

If you are going to post something in wedding etiquitte, don't rely on what you did or are going to do in your wedding as that being the only true etiquitte.  Educate yourselves on what the common practices are.  Look it up online if you have to, but I didn't post this to hear anyone tell me that I am "rude"  when they don't seem to have any grasp on what the etiquette truly is.

Just in case you'd like to see some proof that this is not such an out there idea:

<a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Create-a-Wedding-Guest-List">http://www.wikihow.com/Create-a-Wedding-Guest-List</a>
Posted by <span class="username_knot">janlguthrie</span>[/QUOTE]

He doesn't have to show up to wedding events, except maybe the rehearsal.

If you are not leaving for your honeymoon until the next morning, why can't you be responsible for gathering things the night of?  And even if you were leaving immediately after the reception, you don't demand someone else do something; you ask if they would mind helping out.  I want to order linens to save money, but before doing so made sure my FILs would be able and willing to return them for us since we wouldn't be able to.  If they weren't willing to, or couldn't, I'd make other plans.

I see you said he wants to do it.  Fine.  But having a guest won't keep him from doing it.

I'm doing a B-list, too - mostly coworkers.  But I won't claim it's good etiquette to do so.  I know it isn't; I made a conscious decision to break that rule, but I admit I am breaking an etiquette rule.

You posted on a wedding etiquette site, and people told you what etiquette dictates.  And I'm sorry, but I'm not taking anything wiki as a final source for anything.

mica178

Jan, you are absolutely correct that you do not have to extend +1 to people not in a serious relationship.  However, most of the people on this board agree that for all that our wedding parties do for us, it's a considerate thing to allow the wedding party to bring a guest. 

Regarding your back-up list, B-lists are rude.  I'd argue that if you don't want to invite your FFIL's third grade classmate, just leave him off the list entirely.  Why keep him on stand-by?  That's inconsiderate of his time.  You'd be surprised by how indifferent he probably is to attend your wedding too.  You could Google pretty much anything you like and find a million answers, many of which are not correct etiquette. 

andy71781

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[QUOTE]<strong>Because it was my sister's wedding. My ettire family was there.  I wasn't alone.  Seems like a simple concept.</strong> Like I said, I think that people should actually read up on some etiquette before they assume what they did was right.  Do you really think we just blindly made decisions? No, we researched it. So whatever you say I am doing wrong, I think another group of people would say I am doing right.  That's a matter of your OPINION.  You have no right to tell me what I am ding is wrong.  I asked for advice, not criticism.
Posted by janlguthrie[/QUOTE]

Well aren't you just a little ray of sunshine.

hlq2011

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[QUOTE]Because it was my sister's wedding. My ettire family was there.  I wasn't alone.  Seems like a simple concept. Like I said, I think that people should actually read up on some etiquette before they assume what they did was right.  Do you really think we just blindly made decisions? No, we researched it. So whatever you say I am doing wrong, I think another group of people would say I am doing right.  That's a matter of your OPINION.  You have no right to tell me what I am ding is wrong.  I asked for advice, not criticism.
Posted by janlguthrie[/QUOTE]

You asked for advice from people who know etiquette, and you got it.  Just because you don't agree with it doesn't mean it's wrong.
 
Just because the internet says it, doesn't make it true.

The girls on this site have researched etiquette, plenty.

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]Because it was my sister's wedding. My ettire family was there.  I wasn't alone.  Seems like a simple concept. Like I said, I think that people should actually read up on some etiquette before they assume what they did was right.  Do you really think we just blindly made decisions? No, we researched it. So whatever you say I am doing wrong, I think another group of people would say I am doing right.  That's a matter of your OPINION.  You have no right to tell me what I am ding is wrong.  I asked for advice, not criticism.
Posted by janlguthrie[/QUOTE]

PPs were discussing going to a wedding "alone" to mean without a date, so I mistakenly assumed that you were continuing with the same use of that word rather than using it in a different way in the same conversation. Of course you have never gone to a wedding "alone" where you knew no one else - that would be horribly rude to invite someone without a guest if they didn't know other people.

I have every right to tell you that what you're doing is wrong. It's a public message board where I can write whatever I want within the TOS. Whether or not you choose to agree is another story.

MattsPenguin

Just because you found it on the internet somewhere, doesn't mean it's true.

You asked for advice on a wedding etiquette board, and we responded accordingly.  Take it or not.  But if you came here for validation on your own (incorrect) ideas of etiquette, you will not receive it.

janlguthrie

for some reason people can't seem the grasp the concept that we have said we don't mind if he brings a date.  It was the fil comments that made us worry about what other people were going to do about bringing plus ones.

I never said that we didn't have our bridal party bringing plus ones.  I was only stating that it may be necessary to have a young and irresponsible best man be around his family that night instead but I never tried to make this a law.

As for delegating the duties to the best man, I think it's crazy to say that the only thing you expect of your bm is to show up.  We don't want to help after the wedding because we just paid a ton of money for our wedding and we have to be on an airplane at 7am.  I don't think that's rude to ask for help from bridal party members after your wedding so you don't have to worry about doing it yourself.

The backup list people don't even have any clue that we are even having a wedding. They were people that our family members asked us to invite if we had the space. They are not in limbo about whether they are being invited to the wedding.  They are not invited!  I'm not saying that this is the nicest thing for people to do but sometimes it's necessary when you are trying to fill free spaces.


I see that you should use wiki as any definite source but your telling me that I am supposed to use a bunch of people opinions as THE source?  I just think that if your going to claim you are the wedding etiquette guru, you should know what the other majority of people are going to say.

MattsPenguin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest list plus one dilema : You asked for advice from people who know etiquette, and you got it.  Just because you don't agree with it doesn't mean it's wrong.  <strong> Just because the internet says it, doesn't make it true.</strong> The girls on this site have researched etiquette, plenty.
Posted by hlq2011[/QUOTE]

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mica178

Jan, I recommend that you lurk on this board a bit.

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]for some reason people can't seem the grasp the concept that we have said we don't mind if he brings a date.  It was the fil comments that made us worry about what other people were going to do about bringing plus ones. I never said that we didn't have our bridal party bringing plus ones.  I was only stating that it may be necessary to have a young and irresponsible best man be around his family that night instead but I never tried to make this a law. As for delegating the duties to the best man, I think it's crazy to say that the only thing you expect of your bm is to show up.  We don't want to help after the wedding because we just paid a ton of money for our wedding and we have to be on an airplane at 7am.  I don't think that's rude to ask for help from bridal party members after your wedding so you don't have to worry about doing it yourself. The backup list people don't even have any clue that we are even having a wedding. They were people that our family members asked us to invite if we had the space. They are not in limbo about whether they are being invited to the wedding.  They are not invited!  I'm not saying that this is the nicest thing for people to do but sometimes it's necessary when you are trying to fill free spaces. I see that you should use wiki as any definite source but your telling me that I am supposed to use a bunch of people opinions as THE source?  <strong>I just think that if your going to claim you are the wedding etiquette guru, you should know what the other majority of people are going to say.</strong>
Posted by janlguthrie[/QUOTE]

We know. People like you come here and tell us. That doesn't change what is correct. It's the old "if your friends jumped off a bridge..." argument.

hlq2011

We grasped the concept of you being okay with him bringing a date.  We got it, the first eight times you said it.

It is not your place to dictate the time that your "young and irresponsible" best man should spend with his family.

If you don't trust him to do the things you've asked him to do, then do them yourself.  If you can't, because of travel plans, ask if someone else is WILLING to help.

Just because you think your BM and WP should do things other than show up, doesn't make it true.  Yes, I'd be disappointed if my BMs didn't attend or have a shower or bach party, but I'd survive, and I wouldn't demand anything of them. 

Speaking as someone who has a B list, I don't like that we have one and don't want it.  But FI is determined, it's mostly people who won't care, so I gave up that fight.  I don't think we'll touch it anyway, so hopefully it's a non-issue. 

I don't claim I know everything about etiquette, but I have learned a lot from the girls here who do.  They know what they're talking about.  You may not like it, but they're giving you the right information.

Just because lots of people do it, doesn't mean it's the RIGHT thing to do.

hlq2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest list plus one dilema : i 2 i
Posted by MattsPenguin[/QUOTE]

There's a certain irony there, though, isn't there?  This board being the internet, and all?