This might be rude, but is it acceptable?

ldcf11206

I want to invite 3 or 4 co-workers to the wedding, but I don't want to invite my boss.  He is nice to me and actually has known my fiance since he was in middle school, so I feel a little obligated to invite him...but he isn't the kind of person that I can see myself talking to years down the road. 

My guest list needs to be cut and he is going to be one of the ones to go, but I'm wondering if that's the wrong move.  Should I just invite him?  I don't know.  I don't want him to find out that I've invited other people in the office and didn't invite him, especially since he has known my fiance since he was young.  But, another thing -- he hasn't actually talked to my fiance in probably 10 years although he asks me about him all the time.

TheSaltyPeanut

How many people are in your office?

Brie2010

Honestly, is it worth making waves at work?

I would think making your boss mad would generally be a bad idea, especially if he's known you guys longer than the other co-workers.  In this case, I'd just suck it up and invite him to prevent possible job drama later on.

sarahmk5

I would invite him just to avoid the drama at work.

I understand that you need to cut down your guest list, and you don't HAVE to invite him by any means, but if it would cause problems at work, I'd suck it up.

danieliza1127

You certainly are under no obligation to invite him, but if you're inviting other people from work, you probably should include him given all of the circumstances. 

Do you see yourself continuing to talk to the 3-4 people you are planning to invite if you left your job or they left?  I've always found that despite the best of intentions, work friendships usually don't last beyond the job. 

betrothed123

I also would just invite him.  It's not worth potentially causing waves at the office.

september's bride

If you're not close with your boss, he probably won't come anyway. I'd still invite him, though, just to avoid any awkwardness or hurt feelings. Even though it's not required that you invite coworkers or your boss, some people still get really touchy if they don't get invited to a wedding and that's the last thing you want in an office setting. I'd suck up the cost of your boss and his guest and just invite him anyway.

sucrets4

It's only 2 people (him and his spouse, I'm guessing).  It seems easier to just invite him and the 3-4 coworkers (and their significant others, of course).

SarahSmile23

i'd definitely invite my boss if i was inviting my coworkers.

ldcf11206

There are 22 people in my office.  I am definitely inviting 3 or 4 co-workers, and I guess you all are right, I should invite my boss.  Guess it's all or nothing...I either don't invite anyone from here or I invite a few and include the boss.  

Thanks everyone!

Catwoman708

It's not technically rude, but I think it would be incredibly awkward to not invite your boss if you are inviting ANY other coworkers. 

If you must cut the guest list, then invite no one from work (unless you work with your BFF).

Shawnee11507

Like you said, all or nothing. I would either include the boss or not invite anyone from work.

ldcf11206

Ok....now for another question.

There are 2 other supervisors aside from my boss.  My boss is also their boss (but I am not a supervisor).  Anyway, do I need to invite those 2 also?  Since they are supervisors?  Although those 2 are not MY direct supervisors.

Am I thinking too much????? 

starryskies407

You do need to include the boss, as youve already realized. You do not need to include the supervisors. Since they are not yours, then it shouldnt matter. Also, the fact (which you could tell others) that your boss has known your fiance for years gives a great reason to invite him and not other supervisors.

janedoe1113a

I'd invite the boss and the coworkers you want, but not the other 2 supevisors.