Bridal shower invite list

arendiva

Who from the groom's side needs to be invited. I obviously plan to invite FMIL and FSIL but who else is necessary. I've only met his aunts at other people's weddings (ditto any cousins) I'm I right in assuming that the bridal shower is more geared towards people the bride is actually close to?

lyndausvi

It really depends.   My family tends to do joint family showers.  So we invite all the aunts and cousins.   For my sister's that was 80 women (thank you 2 large families). Our showers were always fairly large events.  But they were held at people's homes, so they were not expensive.

My in-laws lived 4 hours away from my shower.   My sister invited my FIL, 2 SIL and a few cousins.  Which was DH's entire female extended family.   They all fit into one mini-van and made a trip out of it.

I know a lot of other people who do separate showers for each side.    I don't think there is a clear answer.  Basically how it depends on your social circle and how many people the host can afford.

ericaandtom2012

I think it all depends on who is hosting and what they can afford.  For my shower, we're doing a joint with both sides coming - all of FI's aunts and female cousins and my friends and relatives that live in the area.

achiduck

My shower hosts decided to do one (fairly) large 50 person shower since breaking it into smaller groups really didn't make sense. So my aunts/cousins, FI's aunts/cousins, some close coworkers who are invited to the wedding, my friends and of course my SM, FMIL, FSIL, and FSMIL. The shower is being held in my church common room and aside from a small donation to the church that my Dad is making for use of the room the cost isn't really any different then holding it at someone's house.

JoanE2012

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[QUOTE]Who from the groom's side needs to be invited. I obviously plan to invite FMIL and FSIL but who else is necessary. I've only met his aunts at other people's weddings (ditto any cousins) I'm I right in assuming that the bridal shower is more geared towards people the bride is actually close to?
Posted by arendiva[/QUOTE]

We treated the shower like the reception.  Which means we asked FIs mom who she would like to attend.  Some people invited I didn't know well, but they are family and we didn't exclude them just because I wasn't close to them.

sparkles776

We are also having a larger 50 person combined shower. I also asked FIs mom who she would like to be there. She, FSIL, aunts, cousins, and FMIL's close friends. Even though I might have only met some of her friends once or twice, these are people that she is very close to and people that really care about my FI, so if she wants to invite them it is fine by me.

SB1512

I think it really depends on the budget of whoever is hosting.  My mom and bridesmaids determined they could afford to host a shower of about 35 people.  I gave my mom a rough idea of the guest list (shower won't be until May) so she could start looking at places to have it and I included FMIL, FSILS and the aunts and cousins of FI that I have met.  I told my mom she could check with FMIL to make sure we got all the necessary people from their side, but that if she starts trying to add every female that is invited to the wedding (and there is a good possibility she will do this) thet my mom will explain that there is a limit to the number of guests that can be hosted and it would not be right to ask me to cut down on my close friends and family so we could afford to host FMIL's relatives that I have never met, and if FMIL wants these guests at a shower she is more than welcome to host something separate.