Engagement Party

nicoleleeshannon

Is it ok to throw yourself an engagement party?

laurenclaire1386

Nope.

sarah0725

Nope.

ETA: GROUPTHINK!!!!

Stackeye210

Nope, and it's not even a big deal if you don't have one at all.

ZRex

People typically view these as a party given in your honor, so it's generally viewed as impolite to honor yourself by throwing yourself an engagement party.

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]Nope. ETA: GROUPTHINK!!!!
Posted by sarah0725[/QUOTE]
Oh noes! We're all lemmings! Or sheep! Or some other cute wooly or furry animal!

tlv204

No it is not ok, but it is ok to just throw a random party. I don't get why everyone needs an engagement party so badly. Just have a barbeque for kicks.

sarah0725

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Engagement Party : Oh noes! We're all lemmings! Or sheep! Or some other cute wooly or furry animal!
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

Next thing you know, we'll be starting threads to talk about why we all like each other.

srkropf

We didn't have one and aren't planning one. Save your money for the wedding/honeymoon

LesaBear

I've known people who've had very casual ones. As in two days after the proposal they invite family over to the house to have dinner and celebrate. With our friends this means that by the end of the night there are 50 drunk people at your house.

Lyss5782

Im fine with it as long as you state "no gifts, please."

polichik

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[QUOTE]Im fine with it as long as you state "no gifts, please."
Posted by Lyss5782[/QUOTE]

Nope. It's improper to mention gifts in any way, shape, or form on your invitations, unless it's for a shower, which you still wouldn't throw for yourself.

Lyss5782

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Engagement Party : Nope. It's improper to mention gifts in any way, shape, or form on your invitations, unless it's for a shower, which you still wouldn't throw for yourself.
Posted by polichik[/QUOTE]

Eh....Im thinking casual YAY WE'RE ENGAGED bbq or something....perhaps with an evite?  If I received something like that it wouldnt bug me in the least.  I like parties, I dont like people who throw a million of them in the hopes of getting a million gifts.

melissadefelice

We got engaged in December and will be married a year from July.  I want to have all my friends, his friends, and our families over for a big "get to know each other" shindig this summer.  People keep calling it an "engagement party" - so, I guess I'm throwing myself one??

I always assumed they were thrown in your honor, though.

brookelynpaisley

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Engagement Party : Eh....Im thinking casual YAY WE'RE ENGAGED bbq or something....perhaps with an evite?  If I received something like that it wouldnt bug me in the least.  I like parties, I dont like people who throw a million of them in the hopes of getting a million gifts.
Posted by Lyss5782[/QUOTE]

It may not bug you, but it's still not polite. It's not okay to mention gifts. Just throw a party, no label attached. Throwing a party specifically for an engagement is still a party in your honor.

AmandalovesAl

I don't see why this is such a big deal! I mean if you are looking for gifts, then it is a little strange...but if it is a simple get together just so everyone can meet and hang out, I think it's fine!! I wouldn't send out fancy invites or anything though...evites and phone calls!

keita1

 i did alot of research on engagement parties etc now days couple do what they want ive never been married, im helping with mine i like things a certain way and i have friends doing most of the work its ok to call it an E party