Are you coming?

jessienjeremy

So FI and I are starting to get RSVP's in the mail. The RSVP date is December 30. Based on how many we have received so far compared to how many we sent out.. I forsee a lot of phone calls in our future. My question is: what is the proper thing to say to people when calling to ask if they are coming bc you havent received their RSVP in the mail?  I don't want to sound rude or pushy when asking them. What did some of you say when and if you had to make calls?

Snippylynn

Well, I'd have to say, it's probably because people are focused on the holidays right now.  I'd probably give it until after the first of the year.

MISSCOURTNEY20

There will be days when you get 2 RSVP's and days when you get 10. Give your guests some time. I am sure that many people have them and are waiting for the 30th to send them out. Believe me, I thought that waiting until the due date was crazy, but it happens.

When you call just say that you didn't get their RSVP and wanted to know if they were coming.

Summer2011Bride

After the holidays, I would just call and say, "Hi, _____. how are you? [insert some casual small talk]. Well I was just wondering if you had received our invitation and were able to make it to our wedding?" It is possible that with the holidays, many got lost in the shuffle or forgotten about. Not a slight against you; it is just a hectic time of year. you can even put in something about "I know it's so crazy around the holidays!" to not make them feel bad about it,.

jessienjeremy

Oh I am not going to call right now. FI and I were talking about it at dinner last night and he asked me.. I said "I don't know let me as the girls on the knot" lol

jessienjeremy

Thank you for the help!  I will probably call that week after new years, around the 5th or so.

BluValkyrie

I agree with the PP about giving our guests some time.  This time of year isn't the most calm for most people, so heir focus is currently on other things.

That, and even though you may have sent the invites out awhile ago, a lot of guests might not send their RSVP back till the very end, because they DO have until the 30th.

You've still got time.

mandysmear

I called people.  They wouldn't respond, I'd text, email.  I'd just say, "hey do you think you're going to make it to the wedding?"