bridesmaid communication

bumblebee1234

Hi there!

I am the matron of honor in my sister in law's wedding. She selected a set of bridesmaids as well. I have sent out a few emails brainstorming ideas about a potential bachelorette party and if we want to do a shower. In these emails, I have not dictated that we are doing these things but wanted to see what each person's thoughts are. I also offered to pay any lodging that may incur from an event like that for the bridal party as we are all out of state. My emails were very general and not presumptuous.

Here is my issue, two bridesmaids will not respond. I know I have the correct emails and I am not sure what to do and have thought about calling them but also don't want to seem too intrusive. I also do not know them that well. I figure I'll give them another week to respond to my emails (they are the correct ones) and then tell the bride that I'm having trouble connecting with them and how should I proceed?

Thoughts!? Many thanks!

CALEO

When is the wedding and how many emails have you sent out?

Also - did you say something general like "what do you guys think?" or did you say "Could you each respond to me by XYZ date and let me know what your preference is?"


If the first, or if you are more than 9 months out from the wedding - don't contact the Bride.

banana468

You wrote this on WP too right?   Just a note for the boards: when you do this write XP so people know it's on more than one board.

If the wedding isn't until August, it's a bit early to start the planning.

I'd let it go until after Easter and then start in April.   Make the email subject line something like "Bride's wedding".

And if people don't respond, just plan without them.   It's a bummer if some ladies don't get back to you but some people just aren't into the planning of pre-wedding events.

Knottie_22382102

Calling is not intrusive at all. I think as a rule of thumb, people need to be less dependant on e-mail. A ton of complaints on these boards are a result of folks not communicating via e-mail.

I'd probably never contact the bride about this no matter how close it gets to milestones.

bumblebee1234

Kristan, I was just looking for additional advice and wasn't sure which boad was the most appropriate for me to write on.

steign

When is the wedding?

lyndausvi

Just because you know it's the correct email does not mean they got the email.   If you are not in contact list you go to junk mail. I get hundreds of junk mail a day.  I only check them every so often.   Sometimes I miss som emails.  I figure if it's  important enough they will contact me via the phone.