Inviting Bosses/Co-workers

unclaimedpants

I need etiquette expert advice! What is the "right" way to handle bosses and co-workers?

I have two co-workers (whom I share an office with) that I would like to invite because I love their company and consider them my allies/friends in the workplace. I have two bosses who I do not want to invite because I don't know them well, have never met their spouses/children, and do not think their presence will add anything to my day.

Bottom line: do bosses need to be invited if co-workers are invited?

FWIW...

Inviting the bosses will in no way help my career. There has not been a wedding, baby shower, etc. in my time of employment to use as a standard. I work for a medium-sized non-profit that likes to think of itself as a tight community.

TIA!

achiduck

You are not required to invite anyone for any reason unless you want them there. Bottom line. 

Kate61487

ditto PPs.  Ask your coworkers for their addresses discreetly (if you don't already have them) and send their invitations to their homes.  Don't talk wedding at work.  If you do all that there's absolutley no reason you need to invite your boss if you don't want to.

unclaimedpants

This is exactly what I wanted to hear.  Thanks ladies!

Dreamergirl8812

I would have no problem inviting some co-workers and not others (or not bosses). It would only be akward if you invited like 300 people and not your bosses.



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[QUOTE]I need etiquette expert advice! What is the "right" way to handle bosses and co-workers? I have two co-workers (whom I share an office with) that I would like to invite because I love their company and consider them my allies/friends in the workplace. I have two bosses who I do not want to invite because I don't know them well, have never met their spouses/children, and do not think their presence will add anything to my day. Bottom line: do bosses need to be invited if co-workers are invited? FWIW... Inviting the bosses will in no way help my career. There has not been a wedding, baby shower, etc. in my time of employment to use as a standard. I work for a medium-sized non-profit that likes to think of itself as a tight community. TIA!
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Jen4948

If you have a fairly large office and don't socialize with everyone in it outside of work, then it makes sense to not invite everyone, bosses included.

If you worked with only a few people and wanted to invite not all of them, it could get stickier.  But it sounds like there wouldn't be a problem here with just inviting those two co-workers.

cwaggoner07

I got invited to a wedding from a coworker once, and she made sure to tell me that only a few people from the office were invited, so to try to keep mum about it. I was glad for the tip because I really didn't know who else from the office (if anyone) was invited.